What Your Son Isn't Telling You: Unlocking the Secret World of Teen Boys »

What Your Son Isn't Telling You provides a rare look at the secret lives of teen boys--a world characterized by loneliness and peer fear; one in which measuring up as a man means conforming to a code of always being a tough guy, never showing weakness, and never expressing true feelings. Too many boys feel the constant pressure to prove themselves in classrooms, on playing fields, and especially among their friends. Deep inside they hunger for family support and connection--and long to be accepted by their peers. Each chapter of this must-read book is packed with real-life stories and emails from teen boys that will give parents a new understanding of what their sons aren't telling them.

Introduction: Mysteries of the Guy Zone 9

1 How a Boy's World Looks and Feels 13

2 Breaking the Code of Cruelty 27

3 “Eight Things I Need You to Know About Me” 35

4 Teen Guy Battlegrounds 47

5 Making Contact: Getting Through to Your Son 63

6 Helping Him Unmask His “True Self” 73

7 Lust, Sex, and Dating 85

8 Keeping Him Safe in Cyberspace: Unplugging Porn 105

9 “Is Gay Okay?” 111

10 The Furious Five: What Guys Need 121

11 Anger and Depression 131

12 What He Needs From Mom 145

13 Father Hunger and Guy Time 161

14 Wired for Risks? 171

15 Lost in Space: If a Boy Rejects Christianity 181

Conclusion: Lead, Guide … PRAY! 187