Authors: Sefra Kobrin Pitzele, Michael J. Fornwald
ISBN-13: 9780894801396, ISBN-10: 0894801392
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Workman Publishing Company, Inc.
Date Published: January 1986
Edition: (Non-applicable)
Sefra Korbin Pitzele is Secretary of the National Sjogren's Syndrome Association and serves on the Operations Committee of the Minnesota Chapter of the Lupus Foundation of America. She is co-founder, co-publisher, and Vice President of ADVANTAGE: A Magazine for People with Chronic Health Conditions. She is often the featured speaker at healthcare conferences and on radio and television shows.
-_This is a book about redesigning your life . . . about how to live better, not just differently.-" --Sefra Kobrin Pitzele
We are not alone offers inspiration and practical living strategies to millions of Americans suffering from chronic illnesses s
WHO PROMISED LIFE WOULD ALWAYS BE FAIR?
FIRST, THERE IS THE DIAGNOSIS
The first diagnosis was our own
Why is it hard for your doctor to make a diagnosis?
Helping your doctor help you
The best diagnosis is the last diagnosis
What does it mean if you can-Yt get a diagnosis
Susan-Ys dilemma
Remaining undiagnosed
Other special problems
A few words about cancer
Accepting the challenge of change
Getting on with your life
Consultant glory
GRIEVING IS NORMAL
Why are we grieving?
Our family grieves, too
Understanding the grieving process makes it easier
The five phases of grieving
IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH
Explaining your illness to those you love
Forewarned is forearmed
Relationships that function well don-Yt just happen
Chronic illness will not correct or hide the problems in your relationship
You eventually must tell your partner the whole truth about your illness
Chronic illness means never being able to say, -_This is for certain.-"
Each of you will adopt new roles
New roles have new needs
It-Ys OK to be angry: Acceptance is an ongoing, family affair
With the right communication skills, you can keep your relationships growing
BUT WHO WILL TAKE ME TO THE ZOO?
Telling the children about your illness
Your children still need to grieve
They still need you in your family role
Set a good example
KEEPING YOUR FRIENDSHIPS GROWING
YOUR HEALTH CARE TEAM
Which doctor is right for you?
What can you expect of your doctor?
Criteria for selection
What your doctor expects from you
Dependency is normal
Trust must be earned
The issue is compliance
Trust isa two-way street
Advocating for yourself
Be prepared when you see or talk with your doctor
Changing doctors
Your pharmacist
Your hospital team
Regaining independence
Making daily choices
THE CIRCLE OF STRESS, ILLNESS, AND PAIN
The circle of stress, illness, pain
What is stress?
How stress affects your health
What you can do to interrupt the cycle
COMMENTS ON DEPRESSION
-_I-Yve tried, but I-Ym still so sad . . .-"
Sadness is normal
Types of depression
Recognizing the need for help
Identifying severe depression
Using medicine for depression
When to intervene
One last word
BLESSED ARE THE CAREGIVERS
Who is a caregiver?
Why is a caregiver needed?
The need is infrequent at first
The need shifts to full care
How does a person become a caregiver?
Caregiving by default
Understanding the caregiver
Sometimes, caregivers feel trapped and angry
Stay patient and get comfortable
Suggestions for the caregiver
Suggestions for the care recipient
Making decisions and changes
Nursing homes
Allow time for yourself
RESTING, RELAXING, AND RELATED CONCERNS
Reading your body-Ys signals
Prepare to rest
Resting isn-Yt easy
You need to relax, too
Try keeping a journal
How do you spell RELAX?
Sleeping and insomnia
Coping with sleeplessness at nighttime
Keep a list
Solve your sleep problems creatively
If you need more help, ASK
Relaxation therapy, hypnosis, and biofeedback
Incorporate relaxation into your life
A WHISPER IN THE NIGHT
Sex and your sexuality
We need intimacy
Is sex important to you?
Physical changes occur first
Chronic illness presents a new problem: timing
Recognizing normal and abnormal sexual changes in men
Changes as women age
Would pregnancy be a problem for you?
Alternatives
Asking for help
BODYWORK
Your feet
Knees and Hips
Shoulders and elbows
Hands and fingers
Exercise
Diet
ADAPTIVE LIVING STRATEGIES
Plan every day to be the best day yet
Shopping is not impossible
Get ready for modifications at home
The kitchen
Your bedroom
The bathroom
The laundry room
Yard work
Modification at work
Physical therapy
Occupational therapy
Adaptive aids for automobiles
Aids for the automobile
More about transportation
Quick and easy recipes
PRACTICAL MATTERS
What do I do when I meet a person in a wheelchair?
Your rights as a hospital patient
Financial assistance and health insurance
APPENDIX: FINDING HELP
Organizations and national offices, United States
Organizations and national offices, Canada
Products and services
Patients-Y and Residents-Y Bill of Rights
GLOSSARY
BIBLIOGRAPHY
Books
Pamphlets and booklets
Medical journal articles
INDEX