List Books » The Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing with the Emotions So You and Your Children Can Thrive
Authors: Robert Emery
ISBN-13: 9780452287167, ISBN-10: 0452287162
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Penguin Group (USA)
Date Published: January 2006
Edition: Reprint
ROBERT E. EMERY, PhD is professor of psychology and director of the Center for Children, Families, and the Law at the University of Virginia. A frequent lecturer, he is the author of more than one hundred scientific publications, and several books. His work has been featured in publications such as Newsweek, Time, Child, and the New York Times and he has appeared on Weekend Today and The Jane Pauley Show.
Nationally recognized expert Robert Emery applies his twenty-five years of experience as a researcher, therapist, and mediator to offer parents a new road map to divorce. Dr. Emery shows how our powerful emotions and the way we handle them shape how we divorceand whether our children suffer or thrive in the long run. His message is hopeful, yet realisticdivorce is invariably painful, but parents can help promote their children's resilience. With compassion and authority, Dr. Emery explains:
• Why it is so hard to really make divorce work
• How anger and fighting can keep people from really separating
• Why legal matters should be one of the last tasks
• Why parental loveand limit settingcan be the best “therapy” for kids
• How to talk to children, create workable parenting schedules, and more
“Finally, an internationally respected scholar tells parents the absolute truth about divorce and its effect on children.”
John Gottman, PhD, author of The Heart of Parenting: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
Acknowledgments | vii | |
Introduction: Putting Children First When a Marriage Comes Apart | 1 | |
Chapter 1 | Divorcing Emotions: Riding Alone on the Emotional Roller Coaster of Grief | 15 |
Chapter 2 | Separate Spheres: How to Keep Your Emotions from Running Your Divorce | 43 |
Chapter 3 | Children's Realities: The Truth About Kids and Divorce | 60 |
Chapter 4 | Seasons of Change: The Tasks of Divorce | 84 |
Chapter 5 | Talking to Children About Separation | 97 |
Chapter 6 | Keeping Emotions Out of Legal Negotiations | 134 |
Chapter 7 | Parenting Plans | 162 |
Chapter 8 | Coparenting for Resilience | 198 |
Chapter 9 | Exploring New Relationships | 239 |
Chapter 10 | Putting the Lessons into Practice | 265 |
Chapter 11 | Letting Go and Moving On | 292 |
Notes | 307 | |
Index | 315 |