Authors: David Whyte
ISBN-13: 9781594488603, ISBN-10: 1594488606
Format: Hardcover
Publisher: Penguin Group (USA) Incorporated
Date Published: January 2009
Edition: (Non-applicable)
David Whyte is also the author of seven books of poetry, including River Flow: New & Selected Poems.
A radical, "crystalline" (Elle) approach to integrating our work, relationships, and inner selves from the bestselling author, poet, and speaker.
The author of Crossing the Unknown Sea and The Heart Aroused encourages readers to reimagine how they inhabit the worlds of love, work, and self-understanding. Whyte suggests that separating these "marriages" in order to balance them is to destroy the fabric of happiness itself. Drawing from his own struggles and the lives of some of the world's great writers and artists-from Dante to Jane Austen to Robert Louis Stevenson-Whyte explores the ways these core commitments are connected. Only by understanding the journey involved in each of the three marriages and the stages of their maturation, he says, can we understand how to bring them together in one fulfilled life.
Out of Nowhere 1
The Premise 9
Bk. 1 The Three Marriages: Work, Self and Other
Ch. 1 Some Definitions 17
The First Marriage: The One We Usually Mean 17
Work: The Second Marriage 23
Self: The Third Marriage 30
Bk. 2 Love's First Glimpse: Looking for a Mate, a Job, a Life
Ch. 2 The Classic Case: Love's First Glimpse of Love Itself 39
Ch. 3 Vows Made for Me: Falling in Love with a Work 51
Ch. 4 The Doorless Door: Youth's First Glimpse of the Self 76
Bk. 3 The Joy of Pursuit: What We Think We Are Worthy of in This World
Ch. 5 The Pursuit of the First Marriage: The Classic Case Again: Early Stage 95
Ch. 6 Opening a Tidal Gate: The Pursuit of a Work Through Difficulty, Doubt and Distraction 110
Ch. 7 Searching for a Self: The Pursuit That Is Not a Pursuit 140
Bk. 4 Engagement: The Dramas and Disappointments Immediately Prior to Marriage
Ch. 8 Have Nothing, Dare Everything 173
Ch. 9 Jane Austen: Despite All 194
Ch. 10 Alone in the Struggle: Turning to Face the World 214
Bk. 5 Living Together: The Art of Marriage
Ch. 11 The Art of Marriage: The Disappearance, Reappearance and Dissolution of the Self 241
Ch. 12 A Sweet Prison: Living with the Work We've Chosen 269
Ch. 13 Living with the Self: Divorce, Forgiveness and Remarriage 289
Ch. 14 Not a Question of Balance: A Marriage of Marriages 313
Acknowledgments 325
Bibliography 327
Index 331