Authors: Rosemary A. Olender, Jacquelyn Elias, Rosemary D. Mastroleo
ISBN-13: 9781412968645, ISBN-10: 141296864X
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Corwin Press
Date Published: March 2010
Edition: (Non-applicable)
Jacquelyn Elias is a retired speech therapist and school administrator residing in upstate New York. She received a Bachelor of Arts degree in Speech Pathology and Audiology from the State University of NY at Geneseo and a Masters and Educational Administrative degree from Oswego State University. Ms. Elias spent 19 years in the public schools as a speech therapist and special educator. Her primary interest was working with students with emotional disabilities and the very young child with language disabilities.
Ms. Elias was a school administrator for 10 years. She spent 3 years as an Intermediate School Principal and 7 years in the capacities of Assistant Director and Director of Special Education Programs in three different school districts.
Ms. Elias was active in the NYSWA (New York State Women in Administration) organization and SANNYS, a NYS organization for all administrators.
Ms. Elias is now enjoying a new challenge as a stay at home mother of her 11 year-old daughter. Additionally, she takes pleasure in helping out in her home school district libraries and speech programs and volunteers community service time regularly as a member of a local telephone counseling program.
Rosemary. Mastroleo is a retired school teacher and supervisor now living in Southwest Florida. Throughout her career, Mrs. Mastroleo was responsible for the set up and design of special education programs in public school settings. She focused her efforts on identifying the strengths and weaknesses of each child in order to build a successful academic program both at home and at school. Mrs. Mastroleo’s consistent efforts to build cooperative relationships with families enhanced the success of her students and her programs.
Prior to becoming an administrator, Mrs. Mastroleo taught for 17 years in the North Syracuse Central School District in central New York. During that time, she was a first grade teacher, an elementary counselor, a resource teacher, and then an itinerant junior and senior high school teacher. Following her tenure as a teacher, Mrs. Mastroleo became a Program Monitor for the special education department in the North Syracuse District. Her duties included overseeing self-contained special education classes, sitting as a permanent member of the Committee on Special Education and providing consultant services for special education and regular education teachers regarding students with special needs. In addition to her supervisory and consultant duties, Mrs. Mastroleo became a Hearing Officer for the North Syracuse District during her last five years of service.
Rosemary Olender is a retired school administrator who is currently providing consulting and staff development services for school districts across a broad range of educational issues. She has focused her work on the development of educational practices that lead to higher standards for all students and increased public relations between schools and communities. Mrs. Olender received her Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Pathology and Audiology from the State University of New York at Albany, her Masters Degree in Speech and Language Pathology from Syracuse University, and her CAS in Educational Administration from Syracuse University.
Prior to becoming an administrator, Mrs. Olender taught for 17 years as a teacher (grades 1-2; 7-9; 10-12) of profoundly deaf children in inclusive settings. She then became a general education administrator as Associate Principal for a Junior High School (grades 8-9) and Principal of an Elementary School (grades K-4) before becoming Director of Special Education (K-12) for the North Syracuse Central School District in upstate New York. She now focuses her consulting and staff development training for school districts and state organizations on a variety of topics centered on Effective Parent Relations, Inclusive Practices, Special Education Laws and Practices, Behavior Management, and School Related Personnel.
Mrs. Olender is a member of the American Speech and Hearing Association, the Council of Exceptional Children and the Association for Supervision and Curriculum Development. Additionally, she is a part-time administrator for the supervision of speech therapists providing Medicaid services in several upstate New York school districts.
Drawing on original research and the authors’ professional experiences, this resource presents a comprehensive approach to developing more positive relationships with students and their families.
Preface ix
Acknowledgments xiii
About the Authors xv
1 Committing to the Relationship 1
Benefits to the Student 3
Benefits to the Teacher 4
Benefits to the Parent 5
Benefits to the Class 5
Benefits to the School 6
Benefits to the School District 7
Summary 8
2 Recognizing Different Personalities 9
Determining Personality 10
Effects of Personalities on Your Relationships 12
Implications 13
Dealing With Difficult Parents 15
Summary 18
3 Identifying Potential Red Flags 21
Recognizing Red Flags 21
The Likelihood Rating Scale 22
Parent and Family Conditions 23
Teacher Conditions 30
Administrator Conditions 38
Summary 45
4 Honing Solid Communication Skills 47
Verbal Communication Obstacles 48
Nonverbal Communication Obstacles 53
Summary 57
5 Adopting Key Rules 59
Rule 1 Be Respectful 59
Rule 2 Be Proactive 60
Rule 3 No Surprises 62
Rule 4 24 Hours 63
Rule 5 No Dump Trucks Allowed 64
Rule 6 Document 65
Rule 7 Be Prepared 66
Rule 8 "I Don't Know" 67
Rule 9 Never Say Never 67
Rule 10 Never Lie 69
Summary 70
6 Using Flexibility to Enhance Relationships 71
Common Family Issues Needing Accommodation 72
Failing Students 76
Students With Disabilities 76
Families of Divorce or Separation 77
Illness or Death of a Close Family Member 78
Non-English-Speaking and Low-Literacy Families 78
Counterproductive Family Dynamics 79
Summary 80
7 Documenting and Celebrating School Events 81
What Do We Need to Document? 82
Quick, Easy, and Routine Daily Documentation Methods 83
Weekly or Monthly Newsletters 87
Specialized Daily Contacts 87
Conferences 89
DVDs/CDs 89
Back-to-School Nights and Open Houses 90
Summary 91
8 Connecting Home and School 93
Levels of Parent Participation 94
Level 1 General Parental Support of School Activities 94
Level 2 Parental Involvement in Daily School Events 95
Level 3 Parental Involvement in Decision-Making Processes 97
Summary 99
9 Cultivating Resources 101
Where Do You Start? 102
Compiling a List of Family Resources 103
What Should Your Resource List Look Like? 104
One Step Further 105
Summary 106
10 Summarizing Global Lessons Learned 107
Lesson 1 Keep the Student Front and Center 107
Lesson 2 Be the Best Communicator You Can Be 109
Lesson 3 Become User-Friendly 110
Lesson 4 Be Proactive 113
Lesson 5 View Parents and Families as Opportunities to Bring Diversity, Interests, and Talents Into the Classroom and School 115
Lesson 6 Above All, Keep and Use a Sense of Humor 116
Summary 118
Resource A Discover Your Personality 119
Resource B The Animal Test 121
Resource C Personality Types 123
References and Recommended Readings 125
Index 127