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The Other Side of the Closet : The Coming-out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families » (Revised)

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Authors: Amity Pierce Buxton
ISBN-13: 9780471021520, ISBN-10: 0471021520
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Wiley, John & Sons, Incorporated
Date Published: June 1994
Edition: Revised

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Author Biography: Amity Pierce Buxton

AMITY PIERCE BUXTON, Ph.D., lectures nationally, conducts support groups and counsels spouses and ex-spouses of bisexual, gay, and lesbian mates. She chairs the International Straight Spouse Support Network of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG). She also serves as spouse liaison to the Gay and Lesbian Parents Coalition International (GLPCI).

Book Synopsis

Candid, compassionate, authoritative—a rich source of insights, information, and practical guidance. "The first major work on the topic." —Gay Community News "A much needed comprehensive study of what happens to husbands, wives, and children during the coming-out crisis. —The Reverend Jane E. Vennard, founder Task Force for Spouses of Gays and Lesbians "The new enlarged edition adds important factors, especially children's reactions to a parent's coming out. Well-researched and insightful." —Fritz Klein, M.D., author of The Bisexual Option "Anybody practicing in this area would be well advised to read this book." —Professor Arthur S. Leonard, New York Law School In two million marriages, one spouse is gay, lesbian, or bisexual. Having a spouse or parent disclose his or her same-sex attraction is a shattering experience fraught with pain, confusion, anger, and a profound loss of self-esteem. Amity Pierce Buxton spotlights this exploding phenomenon and reports constructive coping strategies that spouses and children have used to resolve problems of sexual damage, family breakdown, deception, and homophobia. Illustrated throughout by riveting personal narratives, this expanded edition of The Other Side of the Closet traces the family's journey from initial trauma to eventual transformation. This invaluable source of information for spouses, families, and professionals is based on Dr. Buxton's eight years of research, including interviews with 1,000 straight spouses and children, her own personal experience, and her counseling work with spouses of gay, lesbian, and bisexual partners.

Table of Contents

Introduction Coming Out in Marriage: The Untold Story
Pt. 1Sexual Mismatch: Damaged Sexuality of the Straight Spouse1
Pt. 2Trial and Error: Challenge to Traditional Marriage Styles37
Pt. 3Growing Pains: Conflicting Roles as Parent and Spouse85
Pt. 4What About Me?: Identity Crisis of the Straight Spouse139
Pt. 5Power of the Lie: The Shattering of Integrity175
Pt. 6Family Voices: Aftershocks in the Children's World215
Pt. 7Breaking the Mold: Transformation of Shattered Belief System257
Afterword: Beyond the Closet315
Appendix A: Additional Readings319
Appendix B: International Resources325
Endnotes327

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