The Gifted Adult: A Revolutionary Guide for Liberating Everyday Genius(tm) » (1ST TRADE)

Are you relentlessly curious and creative, always willing to rock the boat in order to get things done . . . extremely energetic and focused, yet constantly switching gears . . . intensely sensitive, able to intuit subtly charged situations and decipher others' feeling? If these traits sound familiar, then you may be an Everyday Genius—an ordinary person of unusual vision who breaks the mold and isn't afraid to push progress forward. . . .

As thought-provoking as Daniel Goleman's Emotional Intelligence, psychologist Mary-Elaine Jacobsen's Gifted Adults draws on a wide range of groundbreaking research and her own clinical experience to show America's twenty million gifted adults how to identify and free their extraordinary potential. Gifted Adults presents the first practical tool for rating your Evolutionary Intelligence Quotient through an in-depth personality-type profile. Demystifying what it means to be a gifted adult, this book offers practical guidance for eliminating self-sabotage and underachievement, helping Everyday Geniuses and those who know, love, and work with them to understand and support the exceptional gifts inherent in these unique personality traits.

Table of Contents

PART I. IDENTIFYING EVERYDAY GENIUS

1. Beyond Giftedness: Everyday Genius Defined        
Giftedness Denied                         
The Gifted Adult                                
The Source of Giftedness                        
The Concept of Giftedness Expanded        
The Five Facets of Freedom                

2. Gifted? Not Me                        
We Love Your Unique Products. Just Stop Being So Different!                
Gifted? Not Me: Unidentified Everyday Genius Telltale Signs of Everyday Genius Facing the Truth about Ourselves Why Must I Know This about Myself?
How Can I Know This about Myself Misconceptions about Giftedness

3. The Everyday Genius: Lost and Found
The Ugly Duckling When a Duck is Not a Duck Seeing the Swan of Everyday Genius The Everyday Genius Brought to Light The Ugly Duckling Syndrome Know Thyself or Lose Thyself How Did the Swan Get Lost?

4. Lost In The IQ Game
What's Smart and What Is Not?
What is IQ, Really?
Beyond Outdated IQ The Unexpected Gifted Adult Mistaken Identities by the Millions The Everyday Genius Next Door

5. Standing What You "Know" on Its Head
The Everyday Genius Mind: The Same and Different How "Different" Becomes "Wrong"
Gifted Needs The Destiny Question: Disown or Deliver?
Are There Others Like Me? And Are They Normal?
Rebel, Nerd, or Marvel?
Reframing Genius

PART II. EVOLUTIONARY INTELLIGENCE

6. Evolutionary Intelligence: The Next Step
Retesting the Waters of Intelligence What's Evolution Got to Do with It?
The EvI Formula

7. The Evolutionary Intelligence Profile
About the EvI Profile What the EvI Score Tells You Exploring Your EvIQ Score Evolutionary Intelligence in Real Life It Only Looks Revolutionary After the Fact

PART III. WHAT'S "WRONG" WITH YOU IS WHAT'S RIGHT WITH YOU: REVEALING AND HEALING EVERYDAY GENIUS

8. Gifted or Cursed?
Correcting the "Too-Too" Misdiagnosis Déjà vu Gifted or Cursed? My Own Beginnings Five Basic Truths About Giftedness A Bittersweet Experience The Essentials of Self-Discovery The Real Enemy—Fitting In The Ten Criticisms

9. Confronting the First Five Criticisms
Rewriting Personal History Criticism #10: "Why Don't You Slow Down?"
Criticism #9: "You Worry About Everything!"
Criticism #8: "Can't You Just Stick with One Thing?"
Criticism #7: "You're So Sensitive and Dramatic!"
Criticism #6: "You Have to Do Everything the Hard Way!"

10. Getting Free from the Top Five Criticisms
Criticism #5: "You're So Demanding!"
Criticism #4: "Can't You Ever be Satisfied?"
Criticism #3: "You're So Driven!"
Criticism #2: "Where Do You Get Those Wild Ideas?"
Criticism #1: "Who Do You Think You Are?"

11. Meeting the False Self
Meeting the False Self Five Blocks That Enslave the Self and Eclipse the Soul Indulging the False Self Denying Gifts and Talents Getting Over Giftedness Guilt The "Safe Life"
Making Friends with Risk Seeking Approval Breaking the Approval-Seeking Habit Impostorism Unlearning Impostorism

12. How Assets Can Become Liabilities
The Shadow Side of Everyday Genius: Disorderly Conduct Wounds and Reactions Looking Back to Move Forward Everyday Genius—The Second Time Around The "Teachable Moment"
The Reactivity Pendulum The Unbecoming Extremes

PART IV. MANAGING THYSELF: SELF-MASTERY AND INTEGRATION
13. The Big Three Differences: Intensity, Complexity, and Drive
Managing the Flow: No Trickles, No Torrents Charting an Evolutionary Course Intensity: Quantitatively Different Complexity: Qualitatively Different Drive: Motivationally Different

14. Self-Mastery: Managing Intensity, Complexity, and Drive
The Drive to Perfect Versus Perfectionism Ending the PerfectionismProcrastination Seesaw: Ready, Set, Go!
Managing Feeling Impulse Management Reviving Your Natural Optimism Smarter than Ever: Becoming Superconscious From Stress Tolerance to Stress Management The Life Balance Plan Five Strokes of Genius for Being Successfully Different

15. The Everyday Genius in Relationships
Not Phony and Not Lonely The Everyday Genius in Love Partner with the Person, Not the Potential The AcquiesceAccuse Pendulum Listening for Love Reflective Listening Assertive Instead of Demanding The Selfishness That Enhances Intimacy Real Relating Relationships in the Workplace: Working Together, Preserving Individuality

16. Self-Liberation
Self-Liberation Evolutionary Moments: A Preview of Life's Coming Attractions The Catalyzing Evolutionary Moment True-Life Evolutionary Moments The Rewards of Genius Declaring a Personal Mission Beyond I-ness Ten Signs of Advanced Development Reconciling the Nine Dilemmas True Genius

Acknowledgments

Notes

Recommended Reading

Resources

Index