Tantric Sex for Women: A Guide for Lesbian, Bi, Hetero, and Solo Lovers »

Using an inclusive, empowering approach, this book explains how every woman — lesbian, bisexual, heterosexual, or solo — can add relish to sexual encounters and increase her pleasure through tantric methods. In a warm, knowledgeable tone, Christa Schulte explains the basics of tantric sex, including how to become more body-aware, how to cultivate pleasure using all five senses, and how to practice "Tara-tantra," a woman-centered tantric method of her own creation.

The book includes 20 helpful introductory solo exercises, exercises for couples, transformation rituals, love games, meditations, and massage techniques, and covers numerous practical strategies for helping women enhance their sensitivity, remove barriers to fulfilling experiences, and explore the spiritual dimension of their sexuality. Not only does Tantric Sex for Women show its readers how to expand and enhance sexual gratification, it promotes an attitude of remaining open to the many ecstasies of everyday life.

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Tantric sex refers to Eastern approaches for deepening sexual unity, prolonging sexual experiences, and enhancing connection with the Sacred. Of the nearly 100 books available on tantric sex, this appears to be the only one including lesbians and bisexual women. Schulte, who lives in Germany, has a background in Gestalt therapy and tantric training. Her approach to tantra is women-centered rather than based on male-female polarities; over 50 exercises for solo and partnered exploration are offered. While a few seem silly, others use creative visualization with skill and inventiveness. Two strong appendixes highlight lesbian issues and sex as healing. The resources section includes music, well-chosen English-language books, U.S. sources for sex toys and sensual oils, and tantra web sites. Recommended for gender collections. Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.

Contents

Preface....................xi
Acknowledgments....................xiii
Introduction....................1
How to Read This Book....................5
CHAPTER 1. The Wisdom of Tantra for Women: Gaining Female Knowledge about Female Desire....................7
Origins of Tantra....................10
What Possibilities for Growth Can Today's Tantra Offer Us Women?....................12
Tara: A Sexual Role Model for Women....................14
Principles of Cultivated, Self-Willed Sexuality....................19
CHAPTER 2. Setting the Stage: Arriving at Home in Your Own Body....................23
What Does Desire Do, and Where?....................24
Orgasm and Ecstasy....................32
The Variety and Diversity of Women's Orgasms....................35
The Wide Space, Range, and Scope of Ecstasy....................40
A Short Lesson on the Chakras....................42
Sexual Self-Love....................45
CHAPTER 3. Enticing Body and Soul into Pleasure: Tuning In, Playing, and Practicing....................51
Smart Ways to Manage Distractions....................53
Appreciating Apathy....................54
Six Keys to the Gates of Physical Pleasure....................55
Magic Pleasure Potions: Aphrodisiacs....................58
Exercise 1: Shaking off the outside world and arriving in your own body....................61
Exercise 2: In the lap of Mother Earth....................64
Exercise 3: Smiling inside....................67
Exercise 4: Camel ride in your own bedroom....................68
Exercise 5: The power of the tigress....................70
Exercise 6: The wild fire-woman'smeditation....................72
Exercise 7: The dancing dragon-woman....................74
Exercise 8: Saying good-bye to a young girl's self-limitation....................77
Exercise 9: Five questions about taking sexual responsibility....................79
CHAPTER 4. Fantasies in the Female Subconscious....................81
Exercise 10: A creative trance-journey to your ideal inner beloved....................82
Exercise 11: Erotic date....................85
Exercise 12: Fantastical self-arousal....................87
Exercise 13: Through the ocean's depths with the dolphin-woman....................90
CHAPTER 5. Wild and Tender Games with Yourself....................95
Exercise 14: The art of panting....................96
Exercise 15: Sexual breathing....................98
Exercise 16: Opening the inner flute....................100
Exercise 17: Gladdening the heart....................102
CHAPTER 6. Games and Exercises for Two....................105
Exercise 18: Pulling stress out of her....................106
Exercise 19: Letting yourself be comfortably flattened....................108
Exercise 20: Letting go of feelings....................110
Exercise 21: Lioness, sow, mosquito....................111
Exercise 22: Dance of the she-demons....................114
Exercise 23: Cleaning out your overflowing love nest....................116
Exercise 24: Groaning yoni and laughing belly....................117
Exercise 25: The courage to show yourself....................119
Exercise 26: Letting the being in the female lap speak....................121
Exercise 27: The body-map of love....................122
Exercise 28: Sexual menu....................124
Exercise 29: Body painting from back to front, via the heart....................126
Exercise 30: Dance of the hands....................127
Exercise 31: The chakra wave....................129
Exercise 32: Swinging into a state of melting....................133
Exercise 33: The yab-yum love position....................135
Exercise 34: Submission without ifs, ands, or buts....................138
CHAPTER 7. Massages That Have What It Takes....................141
Exercise 35: Pressing instead of talking....................142
Exercise 36: Breast massage for the sensual, self-sufficient woman....................144
Exercise 37: Breast massage for the content, comfortable woman....................148
Exercise 38: Gladdening the heart in three-part harmony....................149
Exercise 39: Kundalini massage....................152
CHAPTER 8. Rituals of Transformation....................157
On the Structure of Rituals....................158
Exercise 40: Ritual to awaken the senses....................162
Exercise 41: Rose ritual....................168
Exercise 42: Women's demonstration of two yonis....................172
Exercise 43: Self-love ritual in the presence of another....................174
Exercise 44: Queen game....................177
Exercise 45: Lesbian celebration....................179
CHAPTER 9. Games for the Expansion of Love Energy....................185
Exercise 46: Fire-breathing orgasm....................187
Exercise 47: Rosette-rose massage....................190
Exercise 48: MMM: Magic "mussel" massage....................197
Exercise 49: Ecstatic mountaintop experiences....................208
Exercise 50: Waves of rapture....................211
Exercise 51: Sex-magical skills....................215
CHAPTER 10. Pleasure as a Way of Meditation....................219
Exercise 52: Female visions of joy....................220
Exercise 53: Full-moon meditation....................223
Exercise 54: Meditation on love for yourself....................226
CHAPTER 11. Concluding Without Ending....................233
Appendixes....................235
APPENDIX A Lesbian Love as a Form of Self-Love....................236
APPENDIX B Sexual Energy as a Healing Force....................247
Resources....................254
Index....................261