Authors: Bruce Fisher, Robert Alberti, Virginia M. Satir
ISBN-13: 9781886230699, ISBN-10: 1886230692
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Impact Publishers, Incorporated
Date Published: January 2006
Edition: 3RD
Bruce Fisher, Ed.D. (1931-1998) developed the rebuilding model of divorce recovery nearly 25 years ago. Founder and director of the Family Relations Learning Center (Boulder, Colorado), he personally trained thousands of individuals and therapists in this approach, enriching the lives of hundreds of thousands worldwide. Popular divorce therapist, author, teacher, clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.
Robert E. Alberti, Ph.D., is a psychologist, marriage and family therapist, Fellow (Psychotherapy) of the American Psychological Association, clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, and author/coauthor of several books, including million-copy bestseller Your Perfect Right. His work has received international recognition as the "gold standard" for psychological self help.
This revised, updated third edition of the international bestseller is built on more than two decades of research and practice, incorporating feedback and life experiences of hundreds of thousands of divorced men and women who have read and used Rebuilding. This book has spawned thousands of divorce recovery groups in the U.S.A., Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Mexico, Finland and elsewhere. Fisher's thorough understanding and presentation of the nineteen-stage divorce recovery process is remarkable. Clearly the most widely used approach to divorce recovery, Fisher's rebuilding model has made the divorce process less traumatic, even healthier, for his readers. They often comment, "He seems to know exactly what I'm feeling!" This new edition, revised and updated with the assistance of psychologist and marriage and family therapist Dr. Robert Alberti, continues Bruce's tradition of straight-to-the-heart response to the needs of those who are divorcing or divorced.
...a handbook for the divorcing and divorced that is authentic and which they can employ in the rebuilding of their own lives.
Foreword | ix | |
Introduction to the Third Edition | 1 | |
1. | The Rebuilding Blocks | 4 |
2. | Denial "I Can't Believe This is Happening to Me" | 30 |
3. | Fear "I Have Lots of It" | 42 |
4. | Adaptation "But It Worked When I Was A Kid!" | 52 |
5. | Loneliness "I've Never Felt So Alone" | 66 |
6. | Friendship "Where Has Everybody Gone?" | 72 |
7. | Guilt/Rejection Dumpers 1, Dumpees 0 | 82 |
8. | Grief "There's This Terrible Feeling of Loss" | 96 |
9. | Anger "Damn the S.O.B.!" | 110 |
10. | Letting Go Disentangling is Hard to Do | 128 |
11. | Self-Worth "Maybe I'm Not So Bad After All!" | 136 |
12. | Transition "I'm Waking Up and Putting Away my Leftovers" | 148 |
13. | Openness "I've Been I liding Behind a Mask" | 166 |
14. | Love "Could Somebody Really Care for Me?" | 176 |
15. | Trust "My Love-Wound is Beginning to Heal" | 188 |
16. | Relatedness "Growing Relationships Help Me Rebuild" | 200 |
17. | Sexuality "I'm Interested, but I'm Scared" | 216 |
18. | Singleness "You Mean It's Okay?" | 234 |
19. | Purpose "I Have Goals for the Future Now" | 242 |
20. | Freedom From Chrysalis to Butterfly | 250 |
Appendix A | Kids Are Tougher Than You Think The Rebuilding Blocks Process for Children | 259 |
Appendix B | The Healing Separation An Alternative to Divorce | 265 |
Appendix C | Healing Separation Agreement Form | 275 |
Bibliography | 281 | |
Index | 287 |