List Books » Quirky, Yes-- Hopeless, No: Practical Tips to Help Your Child with Asperger's Syndrome Be More Socially Accepted
Authors: Cynthia La Brie Norall
ISBN-13: 9780312558499, ISBN-10: 031255849X
Format: Paperback
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
Date Published: August 2009
Edition: Original
CYNTHIA LA BRIE NORALL, PH.D., is a licensed educational psychologist with a Ph.D. in Education. In 2000, she founded the Friends’ Club, based in Carlsbad, California, where she has helped thousands of Asperger’s kids learn basic social skills. BETH WAGNER BRUST is an award-winning author of 13 children’s books and a graduate of Stanford University. Her teenage son has attended the Friends’ Club since fourth grade.
In Quirky, Yes—Hopeless, No, Dr. Cynthia La Brie Norall and Beth Brust present short lessons, structured around specific topics from A-Z that address the social challenges faced by Asperger’s children and teens. Since everyday “people skills” do not come naturally to children with Asperger’s, they need training in such simple activities as:
• How to greet others and make eye contact
•How to let go and move on to new tasks
• How to cooperate and ask for help
•How to pay compliments
•How to discern someone’s true intentions
• How to handle teasing and bullying
• How not to be rude.
Based on Dr. Norall’s twenty years of experience diagnosing and treating thousands with Asperger’s, this book will share her insights gained from helping so many friendless Asperger’s children become more approachable, less stuck, and finally able to make, and keep, a friend or two.
In 2000, educational psychologist Norwall created the Friends' Club, a nonjudgmental, stress-free environment where kids with Asperger's syndrome could learn to communicate effectively, make friends and succeed in social settings. Certain aspects of social awareness-greeting others, asking questions, listening without interruption and looking someone in the eye and smiling-do not come naturally to Asperger's kids, but with guidance, coaching and practice, children can conquer these essential people skills and no longer unintentionally get into trouble because others misunderstand their words or actions. This book, based on Norwall's outreach work, is designed to be a handy, practical guide. Beginning with two chapters of bulleted info and FAQs to explain and identify the signs and symptoms of the condition, it presents 85 Lessons for Decoding Asperger's Children, arranged alphabetically from acceptance, anger and annoying behavior through peer pressure, and even "Telling Your Child He Has Asperger's." Each useful, carefully worded entry addresses kids' behaviors and their parents' concerns, gives examples from real situations and offers suggestions for change or, as is often the case, acceptance. Although a dozen or more experts are cited, the book is conversational in tone, full of insights and will help and encourage parents and their Aspie or high-functioning autistic kids alike. (Aug.)Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.
Note to the Reader xiii
Acknowledgments xv
Introduction: How Friends' Club Began xvii
About the Experts Cited xxii
Part 1 Asperger's Syndrome and Your Child
What Are the Signs of Asperger's Syndrome? 3
Frequently Asked Questions About Asperger's Syndrome 5
Getting Through to Your Asperger's Child or Teen 12
Diagnosis 16
Parental Sainthood and Your Need for Support 20
Part 2 85 Lessons For Decoding Asperger's Children
Acceptance 27
Acquaintance Versus Friend 29
Admitting When You're Scared 32
Alone Time 34
Anger and Frustration 36
Annoying Behavior 39
Anxiety 41
Apologizing 43
Appearance 46
Asking for Help 49
Awareness 52
Birthday Parties 58
Bluntness and Unintentional Insults 63
Bullying and Bullies 66
Calming Down and Focusing 71
Change and "Change-ups" 73
Compliance 76
Compliments 80
Compromise 83
Conversation 86
Cooperation 92
Courtesy 94
Curiosity About People 97
Dating and Gender Talk 99
Depression 102
Discipline 106
Disorganization 109
Embarrassment 112
Emotions 115
Empathy 119
Eye Contact 122
Fear 127
First Friendships 130
Giving and Handling Money 133
Greetings 135
Grooming and Personal Hygiene 139
Holiday Gatherings 142
Homework 146
Humor 150
Indecision 153
Initiative 156
Intentions 160
Leaving the House 162
Letting Go and Refocusing 165
Listening to Others 168
Literal Language 171
Looking Like You're Paying Attention 174
Losing Gracefully 176
Manners 178
Meltdowns 182
Moving On to New Things 189
Obsessions and Obsessive Behavior 191
Peer Pressure and Avoiding Dares 195
Perfectionism and Unrealistic Expectations 199
Perspectives and Point of View202
Phone Skills 206
Physical Inactivity 209
Problem Solving 212
Reading Minds and Faces 214
Remembering Names 219
Responding to Others 222
Rudeness 224
Rules 228
Sarcasm 231
Self-esteem 233
Selfishness 235
Self-regulation or "Stimming" 237
Sensory Sensitivities 240
Slang and Idioms 246
Social Stories 249
Sportsmanship 254
Staying Calm 257
Strengths and How to Cultivate Them 259
Taking One's Leave 263
Talking with Peers 266
Teamwork 270
Teasing 273
Telling Your Child That He or She Has Asperger's Syndrome 276
Thinking in Pictures and Patterns 280
Time Blindness 284
Travel 287
Vacations and School Breaks 291
Waiting 296
"White Lies" and Sparing Others' Feeling 299
Writing Things Down 302
Part 3 Resources
DSM-IV-TR Diagnostic Criteria for Asperger's Disorder 307
Glossary of Terms 309
Sample E-mail from Parent to Teacher at the Beginning of the School Year 313
Further Information About Bullying 315
Internet Resources 323
Further Reading 326
Games 338
Index 341