Authors: Jane Nelsen
ISBN-13: 9780345487674, ISBN-10: 0345487672
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
Date Published: May 2006
Edition: ANN
For twenty-five years, Positive Discipline has been the gold standard reference for grown-ups working with children. Now Jane Nelsen, distinguished psychologist, educator, and mother of seven, has written a revised and expanded edition. The key to positive discipline is not punishment, she tells us, but mutual respect. Nelsen coaches parents and teachers to be both firm and kind, so that any child–from a three-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager–can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline with no loss of dignity. Inside you’ll discover how to
• bridge communication gaps
• defuse power struggles
• avoid the dangers of praise
• enforce your message of love
• build on strengths, not weaknesses
• hold children accountable with their self-respect intact
• teach children not what to think but how to think
• win cooperation at home and at school
• meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior
“It is not easy to improve a classic book, but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition. Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific, Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm. If you want to enrich your relationship with your children, this is the book for you.”
–Sal Severe, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too!
Millions of children have already benefited from the counsel in this wise and warmhearted book, which features dozens of true stories of positive discipline in action. Give your child the tools he or she needs for a well-adjusted life with this proven treasure trove of practical advice.
Foreword | ||
Preface | ||
Introduction to the Second Edition | ||
Introduction to the First Edition | ||
Ch. 1 | The Positive Approach | 3 |
Ch. 2 | Some Basic Concepts | 18 |
Ch. 3 | The Significance of Birth Order | 38 |
Ch. 4 | Four Mistaken Goals of Behavior | 55 |
Ch. 5 | Natural and Logical Consequences | 80 |
Ch. 6 | Using Encouragement Effectively | 103 |
Ch. 7 | Class Meetings | 132 |
Ch. 8 | Family Meetings | 166 |
Ch. 9 | Putting It All Together | 184 |
Ch. 10 | Love and Joy in Families and Schools | 213 |
App. 1: Starting a Positive Discipline Study Group | 232 | |
App. 2: Sample Flyer | 235 | |
App. 3: Study Group Schedule | 236 | |
App. 4: Group Participation | 239 | |
App. 5: Problem-Solving Form | 243 | |
App. 6: Using the Problem-Solving Form | 245 | |
App. 7: Problem-Solving Possibilities | 249 | |
Suggested Readings | 251 | |
Index | 254 |