Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man » (Reprint)

Ian Kerner , Ph.D., is a sex therapist —Dr. Drew Pinsky and New York Times bestselling author of numerous books. He contributes regularly to Today and lives in New York City with his wife and two young sons.

Transform Yourself from "Passion Victim" to Passionista!

In the smash hit She Comes First, Ian Kerner singlehandedly waged battle against male sexual "ill-cliteracy," and women everywhere benefited from his "viva la vulva" philosophy of female pleasure. Now, in Passionista, it's time to learn all about what turns men on—and makes them stay on. In this point-by-point, "blow-by-blow" guide, Kerner makes giving as much fun as receiving as he covers every angle of male sexuality, unlocks the secrets of satisfaction, and offers knowledgeable answers to the questions every woman wonders about. His advice is the closest you'll ever come to waking up in a guy's skin and knowing what truly makes him sexually tick.

Written in the same witty, insightful, and utterly readable voice that has made She Comes First and Be Honest—You're Not That Into Him Either so popular, Passionista is the empowered woman's guide to enjoying sex to the fullest—and ensuring that he does the same.

Preface: The Passionista on the Shaky Bridge     ix
Introduction: The Best Sex He Never Had     xiii
Dear Ian     xxi
The Male Body
Beneath His Armor: Inside the Male Body     3
Male Sexual Response: A Protected Process     27
The Male Brain: The Itch     55
The Male Mind: Overcoming Libido Limbo and the Fear of Fantasy     67
Techniques
Putting Ideas into Action     81
His Sexual Health     85
Turning Foreplay into Moreplay     93
Making the Leap     99
Dragon Tails     103
The Passionista Files: An Oral History     107
St[r]oking His Heart-on     127
Arousal, Part 1: The Hands-Off Secret to Hands-On Heat     135
Rubbing Him the Right Way     149
Fillin' Good     155
Arousal, Part 2: Rhythmic Stimulation     165
Pump the Pedal!     179
The Butt Stops Here     183
Conclusion     189
Bibliography     193
Acknowledgments     197