On Balance » (First Edition)

Adam Phillips is a psychoanalyst and and a visiting professor in the English department at the University of York. He is the author of many acclaimed books, including On Kissing, Tickling, and Being Bored; Going Sane; and On Kindness (with Barbara Taylor).

“Balancing acts,” writes Adam Phillips, “are entertaining because they are risky, but there are situations in which it is more dangerous to keep your balance than to lose it.” In these exhilarating and casually brilliant essays, the philosopher and psychoanalyst examines literature, fairy tales, works of art, and case studies to reveal the paradoxes inherent in our appetites and fears. How do we know when enough is enough? Are there times when too much is just right? Why is Cinderella’s biggest problem not the prince but other women? What can Richard III’s furious sense of his own helplessness tell us of our own desires? On Balance shows Phillips’s bravura gift for linking disparate ideas and the dreamers that dreamed them into something beautiful, revelatory, and essential.

Kirkus Reviews

A set of beguiling essays from British psychoanalyst Phillips (Going Sane: Maps of Happiness, 2005, etc.). After the first "Five Short Talks on Excess," entertaining writing holds the other selections together, composed for various British periodicals. The pieces delve into such diverse topics as why we hold fundamentalist beliefs, the ways we gladly subvert ourselves and how the work of Diane Arbus, W.G. Sebald, Daniel Mendelsohn and W.H. Auden ("Forms of Inattention") incites our childish sense of fear and exclusion. Phillips is fascinated by how little we know or trust ourselves, quoting Freud in his ego-and-id analogy-"the not precisely ideal situation of the rider being obliged to guide the horse along the path by which it itself wants to go." In "Excess," the author explores how our reaction to excess in other people-gluttony, greed, sex, religion-reveals a great deal about ourselves: "Tell me which kinds of excess fascinate you, tell me which kinds of excess appall you, and I will tell you who you are." Excess arouses in us specters of frustration, as we have to control ourselves and are frustrated by deprivation. In "On What Is Fundamental," Phillips takes a sober look at the so-called fanatic or extremist, driven "by the logic of his desire to defend tradition . . . forced by the logic of his desire to defend his childhood ethos." Ambivalent and riven by contradictions, modern man resists altering his fundamental beliefs, but might not even know what those really are, or that they might prove destructive to him. In "Negative Capabilities," Phillips, with the help of Shakespeare's Richard III, turns "helplessness" into a positive moral motive and explores universal experiences of perfectionism and feeling lost. Not quite a cohesive collection, but the author provides polished ponderables for all readers.

Preface

Five Short Talks on Excess 1

I In Excess 1

II Enough Is Enough 11

III Sex Mad 21

IV On Being Too Much for Ourselves 31

V Believe It or Not 40

On What Is Fundamental 49

Sleeping It Off 81

Children Behaving Badly 85

I Should School Make You Happy? 85

II Truancy Now 100

The Authenticity Issue 105

Negative Capabilities 118

I The Horse 118

II The Helpless 123

III The Perfectionist 159

IV The Lost 168

On Getting Away with It 198

Forms of Inattention 213

I Arbus's Freaks 213

II Celebrating Sebald 226

III Mendelsohn's Histories 253

IV Auden's Magic 270

Mothers and Fairy Tales 288

I Jack and His Beanstalk 288

II The Least of Her Problems: Cinderella and Men 298

Forsaken Favourites 308

Acknowledgements 313