Authors: Janet Penley, Diane Eble
ISBN-13: 9780738210452, ISBN-10: 0738210455
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Da Capo Press
Date Published: April 2006
Edition: (Non-applicable)
Janet Penley has been conducting parenting workshops for groups of mothers, therapists, and life coaches and for corporations for more than eighteen years. The mother of two grown children, she lives in Texas. Diane Eble is a professional writer, mother of two children, and the author of ten books. She lives outside of Chicago.
The antidote to perfection mothering -an innovative and proactive guide to identifying and parenting from your strengths
According to Penley, who self-published The M.O.M.S. Handbook, the key to making mothering easy and enjoyable is to become aware of ways of interacting in the world (e.g., being extroverted or introverted, sensing things based on facts or feeling them intuitively) and balance personal needs with external demands. Penley developed her "Mothers of Many Styles" (M.O.M.S.) program to free women of the image of the "perfect" mother and help them identify their strengths and weaknesses first as mothers, and then in all relationships. Based on the Myers-Briggs personality inventory, Penley's questionnaires and evaluations may aid some readers, but others may find the system-it involves 16 personality types and 16 corresponding mothering styles-complicated and time-consuming. Perhaps the most valuable aspect of Penley's program is her focus on self-care and her recognition of the unique gifts that each woman has to offer her children. However, trying to work with Penley's system on a daily basis could, ironically, add more stress and yet another layer to the image of perfection: the thoroughly self-aware mother who can respond appropriately to her child in all situations. (May 1) Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.
Introduction: Breaking Through the Myth of the Ideal Mother | ix | |
Part 1 | Discover and Embrace Your Unique Mothering Style | 1 |
Chapter 1 | Your Unique Style | 3 |
Chapter 2 | Plug into Your Personal Energy Source | 23 |
Chapter 3 | Information, Please! | 41 |
Chapter 4 | Decisions, Decisions | 57 |
Chapter 5 | Lifestyles of the Planned and Flexible | 77 |
Chapter 6 | Mothers of Many Styles-Part 1 | 93 |
ISTJ-The "Responsibility" Mother | 95 | |
ESTP-The "Action Adventure" Mother | 97 | |
ISTP-The "Give 'Em Their Space" Mother | 99 | |
ESTJ-The "How To" Mother | 101 | |
ISFJ-The "Tender Loving Care" Mother | 103 | |
ESFP-The "Totally There" Mother | 104 | |
ISFP-The "Giving" Mother | 106 | |
ESFJ-The "Happy Together" Mother | 108 | |
Chapter 7 | Mothers of Many Styles-Part 2 | 111 |
INFJ-The "Know Thyself" Mother | 112 | |
ENFP-The "Kids R Fun" Mother | 114 | |
INFP-The "Tuned In" Mother | 116 | |
ENFJ-The "Heart-to-Heart" Mother | 118 | |
INTJ-The "Individual Integrity" Mother | 120 | |
ENTP-The "Independence" Mother | 122 | |
INTP-The "Love of Learning" Mother | 124 | |
ENTJ-The "Executive" Mother | 126 | |
Part 2 | Dynamics of Family Interaction | 129 |
Chapter 8 | Getting Started Using Type Day-to-Day | 131 |
Chapter 9 | What about Dads? | 141 |
Chapter 10 | Playing to Your Child's Strengths | 157 |
Chapter 11 | Using Type to Make Sense of Parent-Children Interactions | 175 |
Chapter 12 | It's a Family Affair | 187 |
Part 3 | Putting It All Together for You | 209 |
Chapter 13 | How to Recharge Your Batteries | 211 |
Chapter 14 | Balancing Family with Outside Commitments | 219 |
Chapter 15 | Becoming Your Best You | 231 |
Frequently Asked Questions | 247 | |
Resources | 251 | |
Acknowledgments | 255 |