Authors: Marie Allen, Shelly Marks
ISBN-13: 9780471548348, ISBN-10: 0471548340
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Wiley, John & Sons, Incorporated
Date Published: January 1993
Edition: (Non-applicable)
MARIE ALLEN, PhD, and SHELLY MARKS, MS, both of San Diego, California, are active volunteers in a support group for parents who have lost babies. They speak frequently on miscarriage and bereavement.
Compassion and support from 100 women "Women who miscarry must not and need not be left in emotional isolation. I am pleased that this timely and sensitive reflection on miscarriage is now available to grieving women and to those who are involved in their lives." from the Foreword by Richard F. Jones III, MD, FACOG President, The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists Based on the authors' own experiences as well as the shared experiences of women from across the country, Miscarriage: Women Sharing From the Heart is more than a helpful resource. This candid and poignant book helps you understand and work through your deepest feelings and concerns and, most importantly, reassures you that you aren't alone. The authors offer:
* Support, empathy, and a clear path towards healing
* The personal stories of 100 women talking about their miscarriage experiences
* Interviews with fathers on how they have been affected
* Helpful advice for partners, family members, and health care professionals
In contrast to the comprehensive psychological, medical, and social services approach presented to parents by Ingrid Kahn and Perry-Lynn Maffit's A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss ( LJ 1/93), this handbook by two bereaved mothers focuses on helping mothers to acknowledge and grieve the death of their unborn child. The authors share their intimate feelings and those of the 100 diverse women whom they interviewed about maternal love, loneliness, confusion, responses of their partners and doctors, and obstacles to grieving. Painfully moving anecdotes in the respondents' own words, combined with informed commentary, make this text a detailed and insightful guide to understanding just what a bereaved mother feels. Recommended.-- Kathryn Hammell Carpenter, Univ. of Illinois, Chicago
Foreword | ||
Opening Note to the Mother | ||
Pt. 1 | Miscarriage | 1 |
1 | A Beginning | 3 |
2 | The Mother Who Has Miscarried | 12 |
3 | Shelly's Story | 21 |
Pt. 2 | Maternal Love and Attachment | 31 |
4 | Our Pregnancies, Our Babies | 33 |
5 | Julianna's Story | 40 |
Pt. 3 | Echoes of Mourning | 45 |
6 | A Death | 47 |
7 | Grieving | 52 |
8 | Jessi's Story | 67 |
9 | The Hardest Part | 69 |
10 | Insights and Reflections | 75 |
11 | Leah's Story | 81 |
Pt. 4 | Relationships | 85 |
12 | Our Partners | 87 |
13 | Our Partners' Grief | 93 |
14 | Our Living Children | 107 |
15 | Our Families and Friends | 117 |
16 | Professionals | 122 |
Pt. 5 | Facets of Grief | 127 |
17 | Understanding Grief | 129 |
18 | Respecting and Honoring Our Grief | 132 |
19 | Emotional and Physical Dimensions | 135 |
20 | Eve's Story | 144 |
21 | Understanding Our Emotions | 148 |
Pt. 6 | Beliefs That Get In The Way | 159 |
22 | Childhood Lessons | 161 |
23 | Societal Myths | 165 |
24 | Hannah's Story | 171 |
Pt. 7 | The Journey | 175 |
25 | Passage Through Grief | 177 |
26 | Elizabeth's Story | 185 |
Pt. 8 | Unfolding | 189 |
27 | A Common Grief | 191 |
28 | Marie's Story | 193 |
29 | Opening to Life | 205 |
30 | Gifts | 211 |
Parting Note to the Mother | 217 | |
In Appreciation | 218 | |
Appendix A: Taking Care | 220 | |
Appendix B: Additional Reading | 244 | |
Appendix C: Statistical Findings | 247 | |
Glossary of Medical Terms | 249 | |
Index | 251 |