Authors: Michelle Anthony, Reyna Lindert
ISBN-13: 9780312615529, ISBN-10: 0312615523
Format: Paperback
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
Date Published: August 2010
Edition: (Non-applicable)
Dr. Michelle Anthony, an expert in developmental psychology, is mother to three young children, two girls and a boy. She is a certified K-3 teacher and president and cofounder of Wide-Eyed Learning, a company devoted to facilitating communication and learning between parents and children. She is also a columnist for Scholastic’s Parent and Child magazine. Dr. Anthony holds a B.A. in Education from Brown University, an M.A. in child studies from Tufts University, and a Ph.D. in developmental psychology from University of California at Berkeley. She lives in Centennial, Colorado.
Dr. Reyna Lindert, also an expert in developmental psychology, is mother to three young children, two girls and a boy. She is a certified parent educator and vice president and cofounder of Wide-Eyed Learning. She holds a B.S. in human development and family studies from Cornell University, and an M.A. and Ph.D. in developmental psychology from University of California at Berkeley. She lives in Beaverton, Oregon.
Worried about mean girls? Help your daughter respond and react to bullying where it starts-in elementary school
As experts in developmental psychology and each a mother of three, Dr. Michelle Anthony and Dr. Reyna Lindert began noticing an alarming pattern of social struggle among girls as young as five, including their own daughters. In today’s world, it is likely that your daughter has been faced with bullying and friendship issues, too-and perhaps you’re at a loss for how to guide her through these situations effectively. Little Girls Can Be Mean is the first book to tackle the unique social struggles of elementary-aged girls, giving you the tools you need to help your daughter become stronger, happier, and better able to enjoy her friendships at school and beyond.
Dr. Anthony and Dr. Lindert offer an easy-to-follow, 4-step plan to help you become a problem-solving partner with your child, including tips and insights that girls can use on their own to confront social difficulties in an empowered way. Whether your daughter is just starting grade school or is already on her way to junior high, you’ll learn how to:
OBSERVE the social situation with new eyes CONNECT with your child in a new way GUIDE your child with simple, compassionate strategies SUPPORT your daughter to act more independently to face the social issue
By focusing squarely on the issues and needs of girls in the years before adolescence, Little Girls Can Be Mean is the essential, go-to guide for any parent or educator of girls in grades K-6.
Acknowledgments xiii
A Note to Readers xvii
About the Authors xix
I Laying the Foundation: The Four-Step Approach
1 The Rise of Social Cruelty 3
2 How Can I Help My Daughter or Student? 24
What Is Bullying? 26
Building the Foundation 28
Facing Tough Situations 29
Following the Four-Step Plan 30
Step 1 Observe 32
Step 2 Connect 34
Step 3 Guide 40
Step 4 Support to Act 44
Integrating the Four Steps 50
How Long Will This All Take? 52
3 Think, Share, Do…Activity Bank for Part I 54
Step 1 Observe 56
Step 2 Connect 58
Step 3 Guide 62
Step 4 Support to Act 68
II The Heart of the Matter: Applying the Four Steps to Real Situations Faced by Real Girls
4 Side by Side: Best Friends, Worst Enemies 77
Dealing with a Turf War 78
When Best Friends Pull Away 93
Yo-Yo Friendships 106
5 Going Along with the Gang 125
When Girls Struggle to Fit In 126
When Girls Struggle with Feeling "Different" 138
When Girls Struggle with Going Along with the Group 150
When the Group Turns Against Your Child 162
6 All Girls Can Be Mean: When Your Daughter Is Acting Like a Mean Girl 179
There Are Two Sides to Every Story 180
The Power Rush of Popularity 195
When Girls Struggle with Following the Group 211
7 Think, Share, Do…Activity Bank for Part II 229
Step 1 Observe 229
Step 2 Connect 232
Step 3 Guide 235
Step 4 Support to Act 241
III Wrapping Up: Using the Four Steps in Your Home, School, or Office
The Difference Between "Younger" and "Older" Girls 256
Facing All Kinds of Issues, Together 259
She Is Not Alone 262
Appendices
1 Bully Stories for Home or School 265
2 "What-If" Scenarios 267
3 Activities That Follow the Four Steps 269
Teacher Tips 269
Tips for Girls 271
Think, Share, Do… 272
Notes 273
Index 275