Authors: Michelle Nicholasen, Barbara O'Neal
ISBN-13: 9780738211671, ISBN-10: 0738211672
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Da Capo Press
Date Published: June 2008
Edition: (Non-applicable)
Michelle Nicholasen, an award-winning filmmaker for Frontline and Nova, is a full-time mom. She lives outside of Boston.
Barbara O’Neal, mother and grandmother, has co-directed the Arlington Children’s Center for thirty years. She lives outside of Boston.
Book Synopsis
From a mother of five children under five and a childcare director with 30 years’ experience, a book to give hope to all parents of toddlers
Table of Contents
Introduction 1
Meltdowns, Tantrums, and Screaming Fits 7
Public Meltdowns 8
Private Meltdowns 17
Social Graces, or the Lack Thereof 29
Won't say hello to greeters 30
Won't give a relative a hug or kiss 35
Ignores you or others 37
Won't play with others or make friends 39
Difficulty sharing or taking turns 42
Aggressive or disruptive toward playmates 44
Doesn't respect personal space 47
Bosses or bullies 48
One-upmanship 52
Separation problems 53
Clingy behavior 57
Interrupting 60
In Search of Sleep 65
The case of the family bed or co-sleeping 66
Throws tantrum at bedtime 68
Won't let you leave the bedroom 69
Keeps getting out of bed or calling you back 74
Comes into parents' bed in the middle of the night 77
Naptime trouble-Won't nap on weekends 80
Eating Your Heart Out 83
Won't sit at the dinner table 83
Won't eat any/much food or eats the same things over and over 84
Tosses food 85
Refuses to eat vegetables 86
Rejects what you make for dinner 89
Spills and more spills with an open cup 90
Poor table manners 90
Eats constantly 92
Eats with hands; won't use utensils 93
The Trials of Potty Training 95
Not interested in the potty 96
As soon as they get off the potty, they wet 100
Takes diaper off all the time 101
Starts out well and then backslides 101
Asks for diapers back 104
Urine trained but won't poop in the potty 105
Withholds poop; has smears on underpants 107
Will only have a bowel movement at home or school 110
Needs overnight or naptime diapers 111
Fighting 115
General rules of thumb for nonviolent disputes 117
General rules of thumb for violent disputes 117
Pulling things out of another's hands 118
Disputes over ownership 123
Pushing, pinching, hitting, kicking, scratching, pulling hair 125
Biting 130
Tattling 132
Jealousy 140
Ugh, the noise! 151
Getting Really, Really Angry 155
Anger, aggression, and destruction 155
The extremely angry and destructive rampage 163
Hits, bites, or kicks you 165
Talks back 167
Says mean things 168
Uses offensive words 171
Manipulators and Clever Cons 177
Prefers one parent over the other 178
Plays one parent off the other 181
Provokes you 184
Makes demands and bosses you around 185
Travel Survival 187
The essential backpack 187
Especially for airplanes 190
Especially for road trips 191
Health and Hygiene 197
Picks nose 197
Sucks thumb 199
Spits 201
Still uses pacifier or bottle 202
Security blanket use 204
Hair brushing battles 205
Teeth brushing battles 208
Won't take medicine 211
Won't take a bath 212
Hates going to the doctor or dentist 215
Won't get fingernails clipped 216
Particularly Annoying Refusals 219
"No!" is a favorite word 219
Won't get into car seat 222
Won't get dressed 224
Won't eat breakfast 227
Won't clean bedroom 228
Trouble with transitions 237
Dawdling 239
Miscellaneous Bugaboos 241
All by myself: stubborn independence 242
Whining, harping, hounding, insistence/persistence 243
Obsessive-compulsive-like behaviors 246
Changes mind all the time 248
Loses things 251
Steals 253
Runs away in public 256
Uses baby talk 257
Lies and lying 258
Perfectionism/Self-criticism 262
Epilogue 267
Ongoing Adventures: Final Thoughts 269
How much should you negotiate? 269
Losing your temper, keeping your cool 278
Using physical force on your child 286
What's considered quality time? 292
What to look for in your child's caregivers 295
Excellent books for young children 301
Excellent videos for young children 305
Singable songs for parents 305
Sources and Bibliography 307
Acknowledgments 311
Index 313
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