How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved »

What is a dangerous man? Most women would answer: one who is physically violent. But abusive behavior is often more insidious. Men who want mothers, not partners, who prey on lonely, passive women, who are mentally ill, addicted, or emotionally unavailable, or who won't go away when asked to leave all fall into this dangerous category. In this book women are encouraged to take responsibility for their own safety, are shown how to choose men wisely, and learn how not to make the same mistake twice. Thirteen chapters cover all the red flags of a dangerous man, offer stories of women's successes and failures dealing with each type, and provide safe ways to get out of a hazardous relationship. Armed with this valuable information, women have the tools they need to cultivate positive and healthy relationships with men.

Contents

Foreword....................x
Preface....................xii
Introduction....................1
Chapter 1: Understanding the Face of Dangerousness....................7
Chapter 2: Red Flags and Red Alerts: Knowing, Sensing, Being Aware-and Following Through....................31
Chapter 3: The Permanent Clinger....................59
Chapter 4: The Parental Seeker....................73
Chapter 5: The Emotionally Unavailable Man....................89
Chapter 6: The Man with the Hidden Life....................112
Chapter 7: The Mentally Ill Man....................126
Chapter 8: The Addict....................145
Chapter 9: The Abusive or Violent Man....................161
Chapter 10: The Emotional Predator....................179
Chapter 11: Signs of a Bad Dating Choice....................200
Chapter 12: To Thine Own Self Be True: Learning to Heed Your Red Flags....................211
Chapter 13: New Life, New Choices....................226
Appendix: Descriptions of Mental and Emotional Disorders....................232
Resources....................238
Index....................243