Authors: Sal Severe, Sal Severe
ISBN-13: 9780142004586, ISBN-10: 0142004588
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Penguin Group (USA) Incorporated
Date Published: June 2004
Edition: Reprint
Dr. Sal Severe has been a school psychologist for more than twenty- five years. He serves on the advisory board of Parents magazine and is a member of the National Association of School Psychologists.
Dr. Sal Severe established himself as a leading childcare and parenting expert with his phenomenally successful How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too! Now he focuses on raising children between the ages of three and six. Based on Dr. Severe's philosophy that children's behavior often reflects that of their parents, this book teaches readers how to better handle a host of issues, from fussing at bedtime and temper tantrums to toilet training and sibling rivalry. Instead of focusing on what children do wrong, Severe teaches parents what they can do right by emphasizing the positive, being consistent, and being more patient. Filled with checklists, an extensive resource guide to books that parents can read with their preschoolers, and plenty of inspiration, this goldmine of helpful advice is certain to become a bible for stressed-out parents everywhere.
Severe, author of the bestselling How to Behave so Your Children Will, Too!, focuses on children ages three to six. Parents know all too well that toddlers can be particularly difficult. Sometimes their inability to speak makes it hard to figure out what they want; other children have demanding temperaments and still other kids haven't been taught the "right" behavior for a particular situation. In a calm and soothing manner, Severe offers coping strategies for parents with the most common dilemmas, including tantrums, toilet training, sibling rivalry and more. The author discusses the circumstances, offers specific suggestions for parents and provides a summary chart of what not to do and how kids can get the wrong message by following their parents. For example, when a parent watches TV several hours a day, children learn that they can do the same, or when a parent yells obscenities at a driver who takes a parking spot, the child learns that he or she can also be verbally offensive. Parents can counteract their own bad behavior, counsels Severe, by apologizing for using bad language or taking responsibility for being angry and trying to be polite. The book is particularly helpful for first-time parents, who will find Severe's step-by-step prescriptions what to do when a toddler has a tantrum or how to handle time-outs invaluable. Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information.
Preface | vii | |
Acknowledgments | ix | |
Part I | Introduction | 1 |
1 | What Preschoolers Need from Their Parents | 3 |
Part II | Developmental Factors That Affect Behavior | 15 |
2 | How Language Affects Behavior | 17 |
3 | How Temperament Affects Behavior | 38 |
4 | How Self-Esteem Affects Behavior | 45 |
5 | How Motivation Affects Behavior | 53 |
6 | How Preschoolers Learn | 62 |
Part III | Better Behavior Principles | 77 |
7 | Quick Start Strategies | 79 |
8 | You and Your Preschooler Learn from Each Other | 93 |
9 | Being Consistent Is Seldom Easy, but It Is Always Worth It | 103 |
Part IV | Putting Better Behavior Principles into Practice | 115 |
10 | How to Build Positive Behaviors and Attitudes | 117 |
11 | Use Charts and Checklists to Teach Accountability | 131 |
12 | Use Rules to Provide Guidance | 139 |
13 | Managing Your Anger | 155 |
14 | Alternatives to Spanking | 164 |
15 | Correcting Misbehavior with Time-Out | 171 |
16 | Planning Improves Misbehavior | 197 |
Part V | Applying Better Behavior Principles to Everyday Challenges | 207 |
17 | Common Challenges | 209 |
18 | Sibling Strife | 224 |
19 | From Comfort to Coping | 231 |
20 | Preschool Fears | 241 |
21 | Behavior in Public Places | 250 |
22 | Preschoolers, Aggression, and Anger | 259 |
23 | Choosing a Preschool | 268 |
24 | Children with Special Needs | 271 |
25 | From Cookies to Car Keys | 277 |
Appendix | Children's Book List | 281 |
Index | 303 |