Authors: Marta Felber
ISBN-13: 9780877939320, ISBN-10: 0877939322
Format: Hardcover
Publisher: Avenue Records
Date Published: March 2000
Edition: Revised
Marta Felber, author of Grief Expressed: When a Mate Dies, has more than forty years of experience in church work, social service and counseling. Today, Marta enjoys daily walks in the gentle Ozark Mountains surrounding her in Northwest Arkansas.
If you have suffered the death of your spouse, you have experienced one of the most painful and disorienting experiences life can offer. In the days immediately following the loss, you may need everything from advice on finances to a home-cooked meal. But there is nothing you need more than the warm, reassuring voice of one who has traveled this path before. . .and survived.
In Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies, Marta Felber offers just such a voice-caring, hopeful, always pointing ahead to a tomorrow that will be a little easier than today. Having experienced her own spouse's death, Felber is never glib or simplistic. She knows the grief her readers are feeling and she encourages them to give it full expression. At the same time, she offers sound, practical suggestions on how to navigate difficult days. Sleepless nights, sudden responsibilities, spiritual questions: this book shies away from none of the difficult issues of bereavement. Felber gently urges her readers toward careful, honest examination of the issues they face.
Written in short, easy-to-read chapters, Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies is the perfect companion for one who is struggling to pick up the pieces and go on.
1. | Open the Door | 10 |
2. | Create Your Own "Comfort Place" | 12 |
3. | Build a Support Network | 14 |
4. | Accept the Crying | 16 |
5. | Ask for a Hug | 18 |
6. | Deepen Your Faith | 20 |
7. | Recognize Denial | 22 |
8. | Start a Journal | 24 |
9. | Benefit From Meditation | 26 |
10. | Schedule a Physical Check-Up | 28 |
11. | Walk Each Day | 30 |
12. | Eat Regularly and Well | 32 |
13. | Appreciate the Straight Stretches | 34 |
14. | Organize for Early Tasks | 36 |
15. | Prepare for the Night | 38 |
16. | Greet the Day | 40 |
17. | Ignore Certain Messages | 42 |
18. | Give Positive Feedback | 44 |
19. | Postpone Some Decisions | 46 |
20. | Get a Grip on Finances | 48 |
21. | Get Off the Treadmill | 50 |
22. | Assume Control | 52 |
23. | Make Home Yours | 54 |
24. | Visualize and Plan Ahead | 56 |
25. | Prepare for Celebrations | 58 |
26. | Comfort Your Younger Children | 60 |
27. | Share This Loss With Your Grown Children | 62 |
28. | Welcome the Unexpected | 64 |
29. | Venture Out Alone | 66 |
30. | Employ the Wisdom of a "Worry Box" | 68 |
31. | Improve Lonely and Alone Times | 70 |
32. | Focus Your Grief | 72 |
33. | Relieve That Day | 74 |
34. | Write a Letter | 76 |
35. | End the Play | 78 |
36. | Picture the Person and Feel the Spirit | 80 |
37. | Maintain Inner Communication | 82 |
38. | Live in the Present | 84 |
39. | Acknowledge the Imperfections | 86 |
40. | Attend to Unresolved Grief | 88 |
41. | Forgive and Find Peace | 90 |
42. | Let Nature Heal | 92 |
43. | Resolve the Guilt | 94 |
44. | Face Your Fears | 96 |
45. | Express Your Anger | 98 |
46. | Sort Through Your Loved One's Belongings | 100 |
47. | Recognize the Special Challenges Men Face | 102 |
48. | Find a Support Group | 104 |
49. | Share the Grief of Others--But Don't Be Overwhelmed | 106 |
50. | Celebrate a Birthday | 108 |
51. | Choose to Fulfill | 110 |
52. | Create Memorials | 112 |
53. | Begin to Play (Again) | 114 |
54. | Volunteer and Help Others | 116 |
55. | Enter the Internet | 118 |
56. | Generate Some Laughter | 120 |
57. | Look in the Mirror | 122 |
58. | Consider Your Wedding Ring | 124 |
59. | Proceed Slowly With Dating | 126 |
60. | Contemplate Remarriage | 128 |
61. | Measure Growth and Accomplishments | 130 |
62. | Take Stock and Set Goals | 132 |
63. | Seek Additional Help | 134 |
64. | A Note From the Author | 136 |
Resources | 138 | |
Where to Find ... | 151 |