Every Heart Restored: A Wife's Guide to Healing in the Wake of a Husband's Sexual Sin »

Brenda Stoeker is a registered nurse, mother of four, and seasoned marriage teacher with life experience in rebuilding a broken marriage. Fred Stoeker is founder and chairman of Living True Ministries, coauthor of the Every Man series, and a conference speaker who has counseled hundreds of men and married couples. Stephen Arterburn is founder and chairman of New Life Clinics, host of the daily New Life Live! national radio program, creator of the Women of Faith Conferences, and the author of more than sixty books. Mike Yorkey is the author, coauthor, or general editor of several books for men, including Daddy’s Home and The Christian Dad Answer Book.

As the wife of a man who is addicted to lust, pornography, or masturbation, you are not alone. Millions of men can't get through the day or the week without clicking on to their favorite Internet porn sites, thumbing through adult magazines, or watching sensual videos-and millions of wives suffer as a result.

Over the past decade, nearly a million men have found inspiration and hope in Every Man's Battle, the best-selling men's guide to victory over sexual sin. And this is the best-selling guide for every woman who has become a casualty in the fight for sexual purity. Every Heart Restored offers godly guidance and wisdom for a woman facing such personal betrayal.

Filled with stories from wives and husbands at every stage in the struggle for sexual purity, Every Heart Restored addresses the questions and real-life issues that matter to you most. Whether you are facing the startling new revelation of your husband's sin, dealing with a long-term problem, or cleaning out an old wound, Every Heart Restored will meet you where you are and guide you to healing greater than you imagine possible.

Foreword Stephen Arterburn ix

Acknowledgments xiii

Introduction Brenda Stoeker 1

Part I In the Wake of Betrayal 7

1 Brenda's Story 9

2 Valerie's Story 14

3 Crushed and Angry 21

4 What Loss? 29

5 All About Those Differences 37

Part II The Hardwired Differences of Male Sexuality 47

6 The Eyes Have It 49

7 Sex-His Language of Intimacy 62

8 How Does He Feel When You Say No? 70

9 Chilling Sex 76

10 Mary's Story 83

Part III The Softwired Differences in Male Sexuality 93

11 The Church Has Let Us Down 95

12 Male Wounds 104

13 Self-Inflicted Wounds 114

14 What Now? 124

Part IV A Rebuilder's Reflection 135

15 Under-the-Radar Mission 137

16 Helpmate 147

17 Dressings and Iron 156

Part V What's Normal? 163

18 Your Lagging Heart 165

19 A Merle Hay Road Moment 175

20 Moving Even Closer 187

21 The Long and Winding Road 201

22 Lagging Sexuality 210

23 Normal Sexuality 222

24 What If Change Never Comes? 234

Conclusion: The Possibilities 251

Workbook

Questions You May Have About This Workbook 265

1 Facing Betrayal 269

2 Fighting the Shame 277

3 Discovering Your Beauty 285

4 Understanding His Addiction I 293

5 Understanding His Addiction II 301

6 Loving the Man You Married 311

7 Rebuilding Trust 319

8 Drawing on Hope 327

Don't Keep It to Yourself 337