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Authors: Richard Carlson
ISBN-13: 9780786886364, ISBN-10: 0786886366
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Hyperion
Date Published: September 2001
Edition: 1 ED

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Author Biography: Richard Carlson

In 1997, Richard Carlson, Ph.D., published a little book that became a big phenomenon. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... and It's All Small Stuff was an instant bestseller, spawning a line of Don't Sweat books that cover everything from motherhood to money matters.

Book Synopsis

Over the past five years, Richard Carlson has shown countless families, lovers, and workers how to live in a more calm and productive manner. Now he turns his attention to men, with numerous simple strategies and life lessons that blend humor, warmth, and uncommon wisdom. Carlson invites men of all ages to enjoy the benefits of simplification and discover what so many of us already know: that its a stressful world out there, but it doesnt have to be.

Publishers Weekly

Carlson (Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, etc.) is back, with 100 brief chapters of advice, many of which acknowledge the male psyche. For example, men have told him that doing service feeds the soul, so he reminds readers to have a special cause. He also advises men to avoid letting their competitive natures rule their lives and to maintain their male friendships after they get serious with a woman. The chapter "Take Your Wife's Advice" makes clear that Carlson is targeting readers who are part of a nuclear family. Then again, a good number of chapters offer more gender-neutral advice: cast your choices in a positive light ("be in favor of simplicity" rather than "against clutter and chaos"); keep a spare set of keys and a wallet with a credit card and some cash, so that losing these items won't be catastrophic. There's inevitable repetition if read from cover to cover Carlson advises readers to do something nice for others and to be more generous, and to practice mindfulness and be present but this book is meant to be read in inspirational snippets. The author's "half full" outlook will indeed inspire and soothe: readers should "calculate the number of things that went right today" and observe that there's no bad weather, "only different kinds of good weather." Life, he reminds us, is "too precious to take for granted." (Sept.) Forecast: Publication in time for Father's Day might have worked better, but a $200,000 marketing campaign (including major TV advertising), Carlson's scheduled appearance on Good Morning America and his bona-fide franchise bode very well. Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information.

Table of Contents

Introduction1
1.Have an Affair5
2.Make the "Peaceful Assumption"8
3.Spend More Time with Your Kids11
4.Take Your Wife's Advice14
5.Avoid the "S" Word16
6.Don't Know the Answer19
7.Have a Special Cause22
8.Be Able to Laugh at Yourself25
9.Don't Let Your Competitive Nature Get the Best of You28
10.Learn About Life from Golf30
11.Grant Yourself One Hour32
12.Don't Jump Ship35
13.See It as a Test38
14.Flash Forward for Instant Perspective40
15.See Stress as Nonsexy42
16.Share Your Dreams44
17.Be a Part of the Solution47
18.Give 'Em a Break50
19.Keep Your Perspective53
20.Spend Time with Your Buddies55
21.Practice Mindfulness58
22.Look at What the Cat Dragged In61
23.Do at Least One Really Nice, Small Thing for Someone, at Least Once a Week63
24.Avoid "As If" Assumptions66
25.Be Careful of the Comparison Trap70
26.Take Up Yoga73
27.Schedule Time for Yourself75
28.Get Out of the Serious Mode78
29.Think "Maybe So, Maybe Not"81
30.Don't Let the "Turkeys" Get You Down84
31.Rid Yourself of a Busy Mind87
32.Create an "Easier Life" List90
33.Keep in Mind that the Fantasy Is Often Better than the Reality93
34.Read Your Audience96
35.Have Conflict Without It Having You99
36.Take the Quirks with the Perks102
37.Find a Place to Park105
38.Avoid the Pursuit Trap108
39.Think C-A-L-M111
40.Eliminate Entitlement Thinking113
41.Learn from Fellow "Sweat"-ers116
42.Be For Something Rather than Against It118
43.Blow Off Steam121
44.Avoid the Excuse, "That's the Nature of the Business"124
45.Be Aware of the "Taken Away" Trap126
46.Have a Beginner's Mind129
47.Don't Do It Yourself132
48.Engage in Less Picking and Choosing134
49.Keep in Mind that No Decision Is a Decision136
50.Memorize the Words, "There's No Such Thing as Bad Weather--Only Different Kinds of Good Weather"138
51.Try the "Pause and Come Back to It" Technique141
52.Remember that Sometimes Less Effort Is Better144
53.Ease Up Behind the Wheel146
54.Quiet Down148
55.Have a Spare Set151
56.Anticipate the Best154
57.Be Sure You're Mad at What You Think You Are156
58.Experience the Power of Being Present159
59.Identify Your Stress Signals163
60.Become More Accepting of Change166
61.Reflect on the Power of Prevention169
62.Redefine the Word "Emergency"171
63.Develop Some Nonnegotiables174
64.Avoid Overidentifying with Your Role177
65.Wait179
66.Have a Change of Heart181
67.Honor the Humility Factor184
68.Acknowledge Your Inner Intelligence186
69.Use Hindsight to Create Foresight188
70.Diversify191
71.Calculate the Number of Things that Went Right Today193
72.Underreact196
73.Let Go of the Past200
74.Anticipate Defensiveness202
75.Think "Yeah, So?"205
76.Try Not to Be Frustrated When It Might Be More Appropriate to Be Grateful207
77.Consider that "Needing a Vacation" May Not Be the Real Problem210
78.Avoid the "Caught Up" Trap212
79.See the Irony of "Striving" for Balance215
80.Check Your Blind Spots218
81.Open Your Heart to Compassion220
82.Live by the Motto, "It Is as It Is"222
83.Don't Miss the Fun!225
84.See Things from a Distance227
85.Prevent Little Things from Becoming Front-Page News230
86.Use Compliments as a Stress-Reducing Tool232
87.Keep in Mind that Practice Doesn't Make Perfect--Perfect Practice Makes Perfect234
88.Be More Generous237
89.Let Others Be Right About the Little Things240
90.Apply the "One-Year" Standard243
91.Extend Compassion to Your Daily Life245
92.Stop Broadcasting Your Thoughts247
93.Practice the Rule of Two250
94.Become a Health Nut253
95.Have a Favorite Cause256
96.Respect the Law of Diminishing Returns259
97.Be a Quitter262
98.Remind Yourself--One More Time--of the Mood Factor265
99.Ask the Question, "If Not Now, When?"267
100.Deepen Your Perspective269

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