List Books » Disagreements, Disputes and All-Out War: 3 Simple Steps for Dealing with Any Kind of Conflict
Authors: Gini Graham Scott, Gini Graham Scott
ISBN-13: 9780814480632, ISBN-10: 0814480632
Format: Hardcover
Publisher: AMACOM
Date Published: October 2007
Edition: (Non-applicable)
Gini Graham Scott, Ph.D. (Oakland, CA) is the Founder and Director of Changemakers and the author of many books, including A Survival Guide for Working with Bad Bosses (978-0-8144-7298-9), and A Survival Guide for Working with Humans (978-0-8144-7205-7). Frequently sought out by the media, she has been interviewed for Good Morning America , Oprah, Geraldo at Large, Montel Williams , The O’Reilly Factor, The New York Times, Glamour, and Cosmopolitan.
The potential for conflict exists in every interaction. But when one doesn't know how to deal with these disagreements constructively, they can escalate into unproductive and even destructive situations. The key is not to avoid conflict, but to recognize and manage it skillfully to produce the best possible outcome. In this powerful and practical guide, author Gini Graham Scott shows readers how to identify the reason for the conflict, recognize and control the emotional factors, and find the best solution. Disagreements, Disputes, and All-Out War offers a simple but proven system for resolving conflicts resulting from:
• poor communication and misunderstandings
• different agendas, interests, and values
• political power struggles
• incorrect assumptions about others' motives and actions
• difficult people
Written in an accessible, conversational style, packed with real-life examples, and including simple exercises and tools to help assess conflict situations, this indispensable guide shows readers how to handle whatever life throws at them.
Contents
Acknowledgments ix
Introduction xi
Section One: The Emotional-Rational-Intuitive (E-R-I) Method
Chapter 1: Managing Conflict with the E-R-I Model 3
Chapter 2: Dealing with the Emotions 11
Chapter 3: Using Your Reason 22
Chapter 4: Working with Your Intuition 32
Section Two: Handling the Emotions
Chapter 5: Recognizing the Reasons for a Conflict 41
Chapter 6: Dealing with Your Own Angers and Fears 61
Chapter 7: Avoiding the Responsibility Trap 76
Section Three: Applying Your Reason
Chapter 8: Overcoming Conflicts Through Better Communication 95
Chapter 9: Understanding the Different Conflict Styles 114
Chapter 10: Choosing the Best Conflict Style 131
Chapter 11: Negotiating Win-Win Solutions 146
Chapter 12: Learning to Deal with Difficult People 163
Section Four: Using Your Intuition to Discover New Possibilities
Chapter 13: Coming Up with Alternatives and Solutions 187
Chapter 14: Turning Your Conflicts into Creative Opportunities 204
Index 217
About the Author 225