List Books » Difficult Personalities: A Practical Guide to Managing the Hurtful Behavior of Others (and Maybe Your Own)
Authors: Helen McGrath, Hazel Edwards
ISBN-13: 9781615190133, ISBN-10: 1615190139
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Experiment, The
Date Published: January 2010
Edition: (Non-applicable)
An indispensable guide to understandingand living or working withpeople whose behavior leaves you frustrated and confused
We all have people in our lives who frustrate, annoy, or hurt us: workplace bullies, those who always claim to be right, or those with anxious or obsessive personalities. And most of us hurt others occasionally, too. Now, authors Dr. Helen McGrath, a clinical psychologist and professor, and Hazel Edwards, a professional writer, offer this highly readable, extremely practical guide to dealing with the difficult personalities we encounter every dayin others, and in ourselves.
Taking the American Psychiatric Association's widely used Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV-TR) as its starting point, Difficult Personalities helpfully outlines over a dozen different personality traits and types, detailing their common characteristics and underlying motivations. It also equips readers with numerous strategies for dealing with difficult behavior, including:
What do you get when a clinical psychologist (McGrath) and an experienced author of adult and children's literature (Edwards) team up to write a handbook for dealing with troublesome people at work or in one's personal life? You get a no-frills resource that is both easy to understand and highly informative. As with many such manuals, it's not necessary to read cover to cover (especially when the book's only shortcoming is its slightly repetitive tips and strategies) but, rather, to read the chapter about whichever personality causes stress in your life, from the anxious to the passive-aggressive, bullies, and narcissists. Whether the problem person is a chronic complainer, a fount of insults, or a perpetual martyr, you are guaranteed to find in-depth analysis, including what they do, why they do it, and strategies to help cope with that person in a positive, healthy way. The authors also have advice for people who recognize bothersome traits in themselves. McGrath and Edwards have avoided scientific jargon and created a handbook people can put to use immediately. There's nothing difficult about this book, except for the subject it gracefully explicates. (Mar.)
Introduction General Principles Underpinning This Book xi
Part I Incompatible Personality Traits 1
1 What Are Incompatible Personality Traits? 3
2 Variety Plus or a Rich Inner Life? Extroverts and Introverts 7
3 Let's Get Organized or Go with the Flow? Planners and Optionizers 17
4 Which Rules, the Head or the Heart? Thinkers and Feelers 24
Part II Frustrating and Annoying Personality Patterns 33
5 Built-in Flaw Detectors Negativity 35
6 I'm Better Than You! Superiority 42
7 I Have All the Power, I Know All the Answers Bossiness 49
Part III Confusing Personality Types 59
8 The World Is Such a Dangerous Place! The Anxious Personality 61
9 Getting on Top of Anxiety General Strategies 87
10 Everything Is Under Control Anxiety-Based Behavior 96
11 I'm Always Right The Inflexible Personality 126
12 Don't Ever Leave Me The Demanding Personality 132
Part IV Damaging Personalities 143
13 You'll Never Get Me The Passive-Aggressive Personality 145
14 A Silent Nightmare The Bullying Personality 155
15 Everyday Predators Among Us The Sociopathic Personality 172
Part V Strategies 203
16 Strategies for Coping with Sociopaths 205
17 Making Decisions About Difficult Situates and Relationships 215
18 Rational and Irrational Thinking 222
19 Healthy Self-Assertion 233
20 Managing Your Own Anger and the Anger of Others 239
21 Managing Conflict 247
22 Skills for Maintaining a Strong Romantic Partnership 254
Part VI Following Up 267
Finding a Good Psychologist 269
Books You Might Like to Read 271
Index 275
About the Authors 206