List Books » Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate
Authors: Harriet Lerner
ISBN-13: 9780060956165, ISBN-10: 006095616X
Format: Paperback
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Date Published: August 2002
Edition: Reprint
Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., is one of our nations most loved and respected relationship experts. Renowned for her work on the psychology of women and family relationships, she served as a staff psychologist at the Menninger Clinic for more than two decades. A distinguished lecturer, workshop leader, and psychotherapist, she is the author of The Dance of Anger and other bestselling books. She is also, with her sister, an award-winning children's book writer. She and her husband are therapists in Lawrence, Kansas, and have two sons.
In her most affirming and life-changing book yet, Dr. Harriet Lerner teaches us how to restore love and connection with the people who matter the most. In The Dance of Connection we learn what to say (and not say) when:
Filled with compelling personal stories and case examples, Lerner outlines bold new "voice lessons" that show us how to speak with honor and personal integrity, even when the other person behaves badly.
Whether we're dealing with a partner, parent, sister, or best friend, The Dance of Connection teaches us how to navigate our most important relationships with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.
I love Hariet Lerner's work.
Acknowledgments | xi | |
Prologue: Back to the Sandbox | xiii | |
Chapter 1 | Finding Your Voice | 1 |
Chapter 2 | Voice Lessons from My Father | 12 |
Chapter 3 | Our First Family: Where We Learned (Not) to Speak | 24 |
Chapter 4 | Should You Share Vulnerability? | 37 |
Chapter 5 | In Praise of Pretending | 51 |
Chapter 6 | Putting Our Parents in the Hot Seat | 70 |
Chapter 7 | Love Can Make You Stupid | 88 |
Chapter 8 | Marriage: Where's Your Bottom Line? | 107 |
Chapter 9 | "I Can't Live with This!" Voicing the Ultimate in Marriage | 120 |
Chapter 10 | Warming Things Up | 136 |
Chapter 11 | Silent Men/Angry Women | 157 |
Chapter 12 | Criticism Is Hard to Take | 169 |
Chapter 13 | An Apology? Don't Hold Your Breath | 183 |
Chapter 14 | Complaining and Negativity: When You Can't Listen Another Minute | 201 |
Chapter 15 | The Sounds of Silence: Finding a Voice When You're Rejected and Cut Off | 215 |
Epilogue: To Thine Own Self Be True | 233 | |
Notes | 241 | |
Index | 247 |