Authors: Laura J. Petracek, Sandra P. Thomas
ISBN-13: 9781572243798, ISBN-10: 1572243791
Format: Paperback
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Date Published: September 2004
Edition: (Non-applicable)
Although men and women can articulate anger in very different ways, books on managing problem anger tend to focus on men and their tendency toward more violent anger expression. This workbook addresses the unique concerns of women with anger problems. Rigid social patterning, the book argues, conditions many women to stifle or deny their anger, and this repression can cause a range of other psychological problems. Others experience violent, outwardly focused anger. Whichever pattern your anger follows, you'll learn healthier ways to express your anger from this workbook.
Building on women's tendency to be more relational than men, this book advocates interactive techniques as a primary method of anger management intervention. It integrates elements of narrative, art, and music therapy into a powerful set of anger management tools. Cognitive behavioral and attitude adjustment exercises help you limit the power of anger-triggering situations. Worksheets and assessments guide you in an examination of family-of-origin issues that might contribute to your problems with anger. Sections of the workbook explore the connection between anger and substance abuse, mood disorders, and spirituality, as well as the issue of domestic violence in lesbian households.
Foreword | IX | |
Acknowledgments | XI | |
Introduction: Why an Anger Workbook for Women? | 1 | |
Men versus Women | ||
What This Book Offers You | ||
Your Journey Begins | ||
Chapter 1 | Women, Socialization, and Anger | 7 |
Indirect Ways of Expressing Anger (Anger-In) | ||
Blocks to Expressing Anger | ||
Gender Roles and Anger | ||
Childhood Socialization of Gender Roles | ||
Lesbians and Homophobia | ||
Defining Your Emotions and Feelings | ||
Chapter 2 | Feelings | 21 |
How Do you Feel? | ||
Dealing with Angry Feelings | ||
Suppression of Anger and the Volcano Effect | ||
Denying Angry Feelings | ||
Summing Up Your Feelings | ||
Chapter 3 | How Do You Deal with Your Anger? | 35 |
How Angry Are You? | ||
Types of Anger | ||
Anger Triggers | ||
Defining Your Anger Style | ||
Art Therapy and Anger | ||
Music Therapy and Anger | ||
Survey on Personal Boundaries | ||
Chapter 4 | Boundaries: Experiencing Your Power | 51 |
What Are Boundaries? | ||
Creating Healthy Boundaries | ||
Women and Stress | ||
Chapter 5 | Stress, Self-Esteem, and Anger | 61 |
The Holmes-Rahe Scale | ||
Self-Esteem and Anger | ||
How to Learn Deep Relaxation | ||
Self-Esteem and Self-Care | ||
Chapter 6 | Anger and Your Children | 75 |
Start with Yourself | ||
Comparing Yourself to Your Child | ||
The Drama Game | ||
Balancing the Supermom Syndrome | ||
Asking for Help | ||
Chapter 7 | Healing the Past When You've Been Abused | 93 |
I-Messages | ||
Chapter 8 | Home Improvement: Skills and Tools for Better Communication | 101 |
Problem-Solving Skills | ||
Time-Outs | ||
Communication Styles: Aggressive, Passive, and Assertive | ||
Chapter 9 | Changing Your Self-Talk | 113 |
Negative Self-Talk and Anger | ||
Positive Self-Talk | ||
Attitudes | ||
Chapter 10 | Anger and Your Physical Health | 121 |
How Anger Can Lead to Eating Disorders | ||
Reclaiming Your Health | ||
Premenstrual Syndrome | ||
Chapter 11 | Mood Disorders and Anger | 127 |
Depression: Another Face of Anger | ||
Bipolar Disorder | ||
How Alcohol Really Works | ||
Chapter 12 | Alcohol and Anger | 133 |
Examining Your Relationship with Alcohol | ||
Overcoming Denial and Asking for Help | ||
What Is Alcoholism? | ||
Chapter 13 | Spirituality and Anger | 137 |
The Serenity Prayer | ||
Surrender | ||
Moral Inventory | ||
Learning Gratitude | ||
Narrative Therapy | ||
Healing Anger with Forgiveness | ||
Chapter 14 | The Positive Functions of Anger | 149 |
Constructive Problem Solving | ||
Constructive Problem- Solving Cue Card | ||
General Anger Resources | ||
Resources for Alcohol Problems | ||
Resources | 153 | |
References | 155 |