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After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful »

Book cover image of After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis A. Spring

Authors: Janis A. Spring, Michael Spring, Michael Spring
ISBN-13: 9780060928179, ISBN-10: 0060928174
Format: Paperback
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Date Published: March 1997
Edition: (Non-applicable)

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Author Biography: Janis A. Spring

Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., is a nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. After the Affair has sold more than 325,000 copies. She is also author of How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To. Her private practice in Westport, Connecticut, deals largely with couples who are confronting infidelity issues—making her one of the only therapists in the country with this specialty.

Book Synopsis

For the 70 percent of couples who have been affected by extramarital affairs, this is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship –– written by a nationally known therapist considered an expert on infidelity.

When I was 15, I was raped. That was nothing compared to your affair. The rapist was a stranger; you, I thought, were my best friend.

There is nothing quite like the pain and shock caused when a partner has been unfaithful. The hurt partner often experiences a profound loss of self–respect and falls into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow.

After the Affair is the first book to help readers survive this crisis. Written by a clinical psychologist who has been treating distressed couples for 22 years, it guides both hurt and unfaithful partners through the three stages of healing: Normalizing feelings, deciding whether to recommit and revitalizing the relationship. It provides proven, practical advice to help the couple change their behavior toward each other, cultivate trust and forgiveness and build a healthier, more conscious intimate partnership.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments
Introduction - Can a Couple Survive Infidelity?1
1The Hurt Partner's Response: Buried in an Avalanche of Losses9
2The Unfaithful Partner's Response: Lost in a Labyrinth of Choices37
3Exploring Your Ideas About Love63
4Confronting Your Doubts and Fears80
5Learning from the Affair109
6Restoring Trust147
7How to Talk About What Happened167
8Sex Again192
9Learning to Forgive234
Epilogue - Revealing the Secret: Truth and Consequences249
Notes259
Bibliography271
Index281

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