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Book cover image of 1001 Questions to Ask before You Get Married by Monica Leahy

Authors: Monica Leahy
ISBN-13: 9780071438032, ISBN-10: 0071438033
Format: Paperback
Publisher: McGraw-Hill Companies, The
Date Published: April 2004
Edition: (Non-applicable)

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Author Biography: Monica Leahy

Monica Mendez Leahy has been helping couples prepare for marriage for twenty years. She hosts a series of couples' workshops in the Los Angeles area and has been featured in the Ladies Home Journal and the Wall Street Journal and on Lifetime Television.

Book Synopsis

"An important and essential book for all couples contemplating marriage."
—Dr. Barry G. Ginsberg, Executive Director, Center of Relationship Enhancement

Love can be bliss, but marriage takes work. Communication, compromise, and joint decision making are key ingredients to a successful marriage. Using a variety of fun, interactive formats, including multiple choice, fill-in-the-blank, and hypotheticals, relationship expert Monica Mendez Leahy brings to the table these and many other important issues that will arise in every marriage—including the ones that may blindside you. 1,001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married will help you and your partner explore your common goals and perspectives as well as celebrate your unique differences as you prepare for your life journey together.

Through the questions posed in this book, you and your betrothed will explore fundamental questions about nature, thought processes, lifestyle, and marital expectations, including:

  • Is there such a thing as innocent flirting?
  • Do you both want children?
  • How important is religion in your life?
  • Do you think couples should share the same political views?

Monica Mendez Leahy has been helping couples prepare for marriage for twenty years. She hosts a series of couples' workshops in the Los Angeles area and has been featured in the Ladies Home Journal and the Wall Street Journal and on Lifetime Television.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsxi
Introductionxiii
How to Use This Bookxv
How to Discuss Your Differencesxix
Part 1Your Past1
1Growing Up in a Traditional Family3
2Growing Up with Divorced or Single Parents5
3Impact and Influences of Other Relationships8
4At School and Play10
Your Past: Thoughts on Your Answers12
Part 2Parents and In-Laws15
5Your Parents17
6Your In-Laws19
7Are We Our Parents?21
8Spending Time with Parents22
9One Big Happy Family24
Parents and In-Laws: Thoughts on Your Answers28
Part 3Significant Others31
10Relatives33
11Friends35
12Pets37
13Exes and Past Relationships39
14Relating to Others41
Significant Others: Thoughts on Your Answers43
Part 4Children45
15How Many, if Any?47
16Reasons to Conceive49
17Raising a Baby51
18Financing a Family53
19Stepchildren and Guardianship56
20How Would You Respond?58
Children: Thoughts on Your Answers60
Part 5Perspectives63
21Religion and Spirituality65
22Race and Culture68
23Politics70
24Careers72
25Seven Years Later75
26Your Future78
Perspectives: Thoughts on Your Answers80
Part 6Daily Life and Lifestyles83
27Who Will Do What?85
28Daily Routine87
29Changes89
30Do You Mind?91
Daily Life and Lifestyles: Thoughts on Your Answers93
Part 7Leisure Time95
31How You Relax97
32Planning a Trip99
33Your Traveling Style101
34Are We Having Fun Yet?104
Leisure Time: Thoughts on Your Answers107
Part 8Finances109
35Saving and Spending Styles111
36Managing Your Money114
37When Times Get Tough116
38Money Honesty118
39Our First Budget122
40Your Marriage, Money, and the Law124
41Financial Checklist127
Finances: Thoughts on Your Answers129
Part 9Physical Intimacy131
42What, Where, and How Often?133
43Let's Get Physical135
44What Would You Do?137
45Honor and Trust140
Physical Intimacy: Thoughts on Your Answers143
Part 10Emotional Intimacy145
46The Real You147
47Showing How You Feel149
48Saying "I Love You"151
49Are You Good for Each Other?153
50Are You Bad for Each Other?156
Emotional Intimacy: Thoughts on Your Answers159
Part 11Special Situations161
51Marrying Someone in the Military163
52Marrying a Noncitizen165
53Marrying a Criminal167
54Marrying a Celebrity170
55Marrying Someone Significantly Older or Younger173
Special Situations: Thoughts on Your Answers175
Part 12Your Wedding177
56Getting Married179
57Your Wedding181
58Family, Guests, and Attendants183
59Remarriage185
60To Have and to ... Hold On!187
61Your Honeymoon192
Your Wedding: Thoughts on Your Answers195
Part 13Marriage Builders or Breakers197
62Living Together Before Marriage199
63Communication202
64The Friendship Factor206
65Reasons to Reconsider Marriage209
66Personality Types215
67Habits That Drive Couples Apart223
Epilogue: Final Thoughts229
Spousal Ten Commandments231

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