Authors: Thomas W. Phelan
ISBN-13: 9781889140162, ISBN-10: 1889140163
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Parentmagic, Inc.
Date Published: October 2003
Edition: Third edition
Thomas W. Phelan, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and a nationally renowned expert on child discipline and attention deficit disorder. His books include 1-2-3 Magic for Teachers, All About Attention Deficit Disorder, and Surviving Your Adolescents. He lives in Glen Ellyn, Illinois.
This revised edition of the award-winning 1-2-3 Magic program addresses the difficult task of child discipline with humor, keen insight, and proven experience. The technique offers a foolproof method of disciplining children ages two through 12 without arguing, yelling, or spanking. By means of three easy-to-follow steps, parents learn to manage troublesome behavior, encourage good behavior, and strengthen the parent-child relationshipavoiding the "Talk-Persuade-Argue-Yell-Hit" syndrome which frustrates so many parents. Ten strategies for building a child’s self-esteem and the six types of testing and manipulation a parent can expect from the child are discussed, as well as tips on how to prevent homework arguments, make mealtimes more enjoyable, conduct effective family meetings, and encourage children to start doing their household chores. New advice about kids and technology and new illustrations bring this essential parenting companion completely up-to-date.
An excellent, workable, and supportive resource for parents and educators.
Preface to the Third Edition | i | |
Parenting: Not for the Faint of Heart! | 1 | |
Part I | Straight Thinking | |
1. | Is It Magic? | 7 |
2. | Stop Behavior and Start Behavior | 11 |
3. | The Little Adult Assumption | 15 |
4. | The Two Biggest Discipline Mistakes | 19 |
Part II | Controlling Obnoxious Behavior | |
5. | Counting Obnoxious Behavior | 25 |
6. | Twenty Questions | 39 |
7. | What to Do in Public | 55 |
8. | Variations: Sibling Rivalry, Tantrums and Pouting | 63 |
9. | The Kickoff Conversation | 67 |
Part III | No Child Will Thank you | |
10. | The Six Kinds of Testing and Manipulation | 73 |
11. | Counting in Action | 87 |
12. | More Serious Offenses | 97 |
Part IV | Encouraging Good Behavior | |
13. | 7 Start Behavior Tactics | 111 |
14. | Up and Out in the Morning | 127 |
15. | Cleaning Rooms, Picking Up and Chores | 133 |
16. | Mealtimes | 141 |
17. | Homework and Practicing | 147 |
18. | Bedtime and Nighttime Waking | 155 |
19. | The Family Meeting | 167 |
20. | When Do you Talk? | 173 |
Part V | Strengthening your Relationship | |
21. | Your Child's Self-Esteem | 179 |
22. | Overparenting | 183 |
23. | Affection and Praise | 187 |
24. | Real Magic: One-on-One Fun | 191 |
25. | Active Listening | 197 |
26. | Your New Life | 205 |
Index | 209 |