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False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction (LifeChange) Paperback – July 15, 1997

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With frank honesty, False Intimacy offers realistic direction to those whose lives or ministries have been impacted by sexual addiction while examining the roots behind these behaviors. This compelling book examines different aspects of sexual addiction, including shame, purity, and forgiveness, while exploring one’s true identity and God-given sexuality.
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WHY ARE SEXUAL TEMPTATIONS SO HARD TO RESIST WHEN THE PRICE IS SO HIGH? We all long for true intimacy. Many people seek to fill that void by seeking sexual relationships-whether real or fantasized-that promise to provide the relief, acceptance, and fulfillment for which they long. But it is false intimacy. And as Dr. Harry Schaumburg points out, "Sexual intimacy can't relieve their deep, unmet longings." False Intimacy goes beyond behavioral symptoms and willpower-based solutions to provide biblical guideposts for the journey to restoration. With frank honesty, False Intimacy examines the roots behind these kinds of behaviors and offers realistic direction to those whose lives or ministries have been impacted by sexual addiction.

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DR. HARRY W. SCHAUMBURG has treated sexual addiction and misconduct for the past eighteen years. He received his doctorate from New York Theological Seminary, and completed post-graduate work at Northwestern University. He currently works with Christian leaders on the problems of sexual misconduct and sexual addiction.

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  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ NavPress; Revised ed. edition (July 15, 1997)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Paperback ‏ : ‎ 256 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1576830284
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1576830284
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 11.2 ounces
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.9 x 0.69 x 8.8 inches
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Harry W. Schaumburg, MA, MS, DMin, is biblical counselor who has spent all of his professional career addressing the problems of sexual sin. His pioneering week-long Biblical Intensive Counseling program has drawn over three thousand people from the U.S. and over twenty foreign countries. For over thirty years, Dr. Schaumburg has been involved in pointing people away from sexual sin to restored intimacy with God and others. He is the bestselling author of False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction, the first book on the subject of sexual addiction from a biblical perspective. It has been published in Spanish, Portuguese, Italian, Russian, Chinese, and Korean. His latest books are Undefiled: Redemption From Sexual Sin, Restoration for Broken Relationships and Undefiled Study Guide for individuals and couples, (available exclusively at www.restoringsexualpurity.org. Married forty seven years to his wife Rosemary, they have two adult sons.

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Ed Worden
5.0 out of 5 stars Required reading for personal restoration
Reviewed in the United States on November 24, 2022
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Not an easy read by any account, Dr Schaumburg tackles sexual addictions by understanding what the Bible calls falling short of God's best. Sin is sin, and excuses are readily available by those who are not ready to be honest.

However, as followers of Jesus, His truth can set us free. Restoration is possible, as long as honesty is foremost and transparency is in place.

God loves the struggling son or daughter and will fully embrace and give grace to the humble.
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"My Refuge"
5.0 out of 5 stars This book was very helpful in understanding a subject most professionals do not want to discuss.
Reviewed in the United States on September 27, 2009
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This book had similar information about sexual addiction as "Out of the Shadows" by Patrick Carnes but with scripture to back it. Sexual addiction is one of the best kept secrets in our churches (and in professional lives) its about time therapist start researching it and talking about it. I belong to a mega church and when I went to the church counselor about my husbands problem he wasn't even familiar with this book, he said "we send out the big problems to the therapist". How sad and how long is the church going to stick its head in the sand and act like this problem doesn't exist in our fellowships? This is the reason so many people suffer (addicts and their spouses) because clergy, doctors, and counselors are choosing to stay ignorant on this rapidly growing addiction. I applaud Dr. Schaumburg for his research and honesty in the help of understanding this baffling (disease,sin,addiction....)and how it is destroying our marriages. There is hope, my husband is proof of that and this book helped both of us understand and seek out professional help with specialized SA therapy.
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E. R. Wright
5.0 out of 5 stars Hardcore
Reviewed in the United States on July 14, 2007
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I bought this book out of desperation and a desire to help my suffering loved ones. This book is painfully honest and not for the faint of heart. The author has a profound understanding of this affliction and strips it down to the ugly truth of how lost souls lose hope and how precious lives are destroyed. If you are searching for insight about sexual addiction, I highly recommend this book. It broke my heart and gave me deep compassion for the people in my life who struggle with false intimacy issues. For the sex addict searching for honesty and hope, this should be required reading.

The subject matter being what it is, I found it hard to read this book without feeling filthy and even more wounded. Wives of sex addicts will not find healing within these pages (only God can heal something so painful). However, they will find answers. Several chapters address strategies that might help affected loved ones. For the wives of sex addicts, I also recommend Lord Heal My Hurts by Kay Arthur or Every Heart Restored by Stephen Arterburn.
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David Schultz
4.0 out of 5 stars I really enjoyed it and thought it was incredibly thought provoking
Reviewed in the United States on August 1, 2016
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I actually read this book because a friend of mine had some struggles and was reading it. I really enjoyed it and thought it was incredibly thought provoking. I felt there was things in the book that helped me through some issues that I struggle with.
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David Kellenberger
5.0 out of 5 stars Wow!
Reviewed in the United States on February 26, 2022
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I’m learning so much from this book. It explains sin in general and not just sexually related sin. Anything that takes the place of intimacy with God is false intimacy.
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edward
5.0 out of 5 stars Wow, awakened my love for God and my wife at a much needed level.
Reviewed in the United States on November 13, 2017
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This book is so relatable on so many different levels. Opened my eyes and heart to a whole new understanding about marriages and dysfunctions that go on inside of them. Amazing insight as to why God should be the center and not us. As I read deeper into the book I felt like all my senses were firing at the same time.
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JC
5.0 out of 5 stars A standard book on topic
Reviewed in the United States on November 29, 2020
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This book was recommended by multiple resources. Very helpful in this particular fight, changing the mindset about intimacy and how to identify/cut off the counterfeits.
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Mamawolf
3.0 out of 5 stars Basic but helpful
Reviewed in the United States on February 11, 2015
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Obviously not a thrilling topic, though I think it could be helpful in some ways. I found it to be somewhat basic, justifying, lenient (where child sex abuse is concerned), and seemingly geared toward letting faith heal the evil in a situation that is rarely healed unless/until the addict decides to "come clean and get clean"
It does give some idea as to the sorts of things that set a person up to have a sexual addiction in the first place (a good road map for BEFORE you attach your life to someone, maybe?), and that people who struggle with this sort of illness are victimized themselves. I just have a very hard time sympathizing with people who get involved with this sort of thing to begin with, so maybe you'll find it much more informative than I did.
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JR
4.0 out of 5 stars Real Help for Addicts and those who love them.
Reviewed in Canada on November 18, 2015
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Great book on Sexual Addiction (from an Evangelical Christian point of view). I've read several books on the subject (Steve Gallagher's At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry, Aterburn's Every Man's Battle, etc) and this is the best IMHO.
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Michael Bennett
4.0 out of 5 stars Four Stars
Reviewed in Canada on September 9, 2015
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very well written and about bloody time.
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