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Relationship Saboteurs: Overcoming the Ten Behaviors that Undermine Love Paperback – June 3, 2010

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Do you seek a healthy romantic relationship, but continue to find yourself repeating the same negative behaviors that may have ended your relationships in the past? Have you already identified destructive patterns, yet continue to repeat them despite your desire for a strong and lasting romantic relationship? If so, you are not alone.

Relationship Saboteurs is an easy-to-follow guide that will help you identify and end your relationship-destroying tendencies once and for all. The book explores the ten most common relationship-undermining behaviors and shows you how to overcome them. By understanding and addressing the patterns that erode romance, you can learn to stop sabotaging your love life and prepare yourself for the healthy romantic relationship you deserve.

Learn to overcome these toxic emotions and behaviors: •Insecurity•Needing to control •Fear of intimacy •Needing to win •Pessimism •Needing to be center stage •Addictions •Martyrdom •Defensiveness •Breaking trust
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“Relationship Saboteurs is for anyone who wants long-lasting love and can’t figure out how to find and keep it. Randi Gunther’s honest, illuminating, and straightforward approach helps us to understand something so basic yet so complex: how to love and be loved.”

―Lori Gottlieb, bestselling author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough



“Once you know where the land mines are, it’s much easier to avoid them. Randi Gunther’s Relationship Saboteurs is the guidebook you need to defuse and disarm the behaviors that implode relationships.”

―Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of Emotional Fitness for Couples and Emotional Fitness for Intimacy



“Randi Gunther is a lifesaver. She has saved mine a few times over. With this book, she puts her decades of experience and her phenomenally deep and intuitive knowledge of couples dynamics into an easily digestable and applicable form. Whether one does the included exercises or not, a careful reading of this book will give you a roadmap to get on the path towards a healthy relationship or marriage.”

―Larry Klein, Grammy-award winning record producer, musician, and composer

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Relationship Saboteurs presents a seven-step model for exploring and overcoming the ten most common destructive relationship patterns and building a healthy, long-lasting partnership.

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  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ New Harbinger Publications; First Edition (June 3, 2010)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Paperback ‏ : ‎ 224 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1572247460
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1572247468
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 10.8 ounces
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6.25 x 0.75 x 9 inches
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Dr. Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her forty year career, she has accumulated over 100,000 face-to-face hours with individuals and couples. She has inspired hundreds of people in her workshops and lectures to go beyond their limitations and create successful relationships. A practical idealist, she encourages her patients to break the bonds of repeated negative patterns and to pursue new options.

"The creation of a long-lasting, wonderful relationship is not automatic or easy. Like any other important commitment, it can only continue paying dividends with a continuous re-investment of time, energy, and devotion. From the thousands of hours I've spent with couples and individuals, I have learned what skills and values successful couples practice that ensure their love will continue to regenerate. My books are an encapsulation of those principles."

Dr. Gunther and her husband met when they were in their teens and have continued their mutual devotion for over fifty years. They feel that the principles and skills in this book are what have successfully guided them on their journey through life together.

She regularly shares her articles on Psychology Today Blogs and on Huffington Post, and can be reached directly by logging on to her web site, randigunther.com.

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5.0 out of 5 stars More than hope, this is help.
Reviewed in the United States on August 14, 2014
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I have suffered at the hands of my family all my adult life. I had an illness I didnt know I had, a silent killer if you may.
Randi Gunther put a face, a name, an understand to my illness. Though our familys love us uncoditionally, sometimes they unwittingly plant a seed or seeds that our life expierences will foster into demons in our life. I reguard no ill will toward my parents, they did the best the could. This book set me free of the bondage of self desructive behaviors I have been doing to myself all this time. I not only see my problems, but I recognize the illnesses of others, which has allowed me the compassion and empathy I need to be a true friend.
If you have sruggled with passed failed relationships, as I have, this book will most likely shine the light of trueth on the common denominator, not to say you or I were solely responsible, but we were the common denominator. She speaks plainly and candidly. This book will probaly shed light on your partner if you can't explain why the more you love them the more they push you away.
Finally, if you ever wondered why it's been said, watch what you say to your, or any child, this book will enlighten you, hopefully educate you.
This book is not for somebody looking to blame somebody, it's for people who can look at themselves in the mirror and say, "I need help"
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Dirk Eldredge
5.0 out of 5 stars Must Read !!!! & Must Re-Read !!!
Reviewed in the United States on September 3, 2010
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Dr.Gunther has been a gifted clinical psychologist for many years.
She has helped thousands of people repair broken relationships. Through her writings and her therapeutic approaches she helps people find a place in their hearts to push their understanding of themselves and their partners to new heights.
Toxic Relationships are an epidemic in our country. Broken Families, broken hearts and lost dreams
do not have to happen. Dr. Gunther offers up so many wonderful keys to unlocking our arrested emotional
capabilities through the words and insights she has gathered over her massive amount of human understanding.
This book is a must be read for everyone. We all know how many options are out there for self help and relationship quick fixes, this is not just another book.
Relationships need to be valued and "worked on" on a higher level. Dr. Gunther simply offers us new tools through this fabulous book to make it possible for each of us to fully enjoy rich, romantic and meaningful relationships that will not only last but truly flourish on levels you can only understand after reading this unique book.
This is a gift for people in all different chapters of their lives. Pick it up, read it, you won't be able to put it down.
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Tuuli
4.0 out of 5 stars A good starting point
Reviewed in the United States on February 6, 2012
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I chose this book of all the relationship-self-help books in Amazon because it seemed practical, scientific and not very dependent on culture. It was really useful to find out what I was doing wrong: I was acting very insecure. I did the exercises of the book and it helped me to realize why I was acting like that and also offered a starting point for changing the behavior. It has helped me a lot, but I'm still going to read other books too. This book is more helpful if only one person is sabotaging the relationship, which I think is very rare in troubled cases.
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brooklyn095
5.0 out of 5 stars At Last!
Reviewed in the United States on March 16, 2012
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Believe it or not but this book restored my relationship with my man, my son, and my job. As i read this book so many hidden demons started to resurface that i had burried deep inside me for so many years. I found myself crying as i read this book because i did'nt realize that my past was holding me back from true happiness. Reading this book was like talkng to a professional. I was able to face, accept, and forgive. I am now happy and more forgiving and understanding. After 3 years me and my boyfriends love is so strong now. Me and my son are at a better place and after being at my job for almost 6 years i am now very happy and look forward to coming to work every day. Please if you are dealing with demons from your past give this book a try. It won't hurt but i promise you it will help if not save your life. I must warn you it might be a little scary because it forces you to dig deep in your past and face some scary issues that we rather forget but once facing them it gives you a better understanding of why we saboteus so many relationships with out knowing that it's you thats doing it.
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Sharon
3.0 out of 5 stars good read over all
Reviewed in the United States on March 25, 2015
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lot of common sense approach to the book, good read over all, I bought as a gift for someone else but read it first and I do think it will be helpful to person I bought it for.
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adlavee
5.0 out of 5 stars THANK YOU DR. GUNTHER.
Reviewed in the United States on November 13, 2010
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Dr. Randi Gunther has written an easy to approach and easy to connect with relationship bible.

It is clear in through her writing that she is a uniquely wise and extremely experienced practitioner. Throughout the book I was able to connect my experiences directly to the problems / solutions and examples she discussed. Dr. Gunther provides an alternative perspective from which to approach problems and problem solving within relationships.

This book has assisted in my development. I have gained more confidence within my relationships and as a result those relationships have been strengthened. I feel more internally resolved and as a result seem to be more pleasant to be around.

I would highly recommend this book to the following type of person: 1. anyone interested in strengthening their relationship with their spouse or significant other, 2. anyone interested in becoming a more confident and therefore attractive person in order to gain a spouse or significant other, 3. and anyone who enjoys benefiting themselves with valuable knowledge which can be applied to any and all relationships.

So, yeah I recommend the book.
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tony
5.0 out of 5 stars Great
Reviewed in Canada on August 29, 2018
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good book
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wendyworld
5.0 out of 5 stars Helpful reading
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on April 20, 2017
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3.0 out of 5 stars Good read
Reviewed in Australia on June 29, 2016
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Very interesting in some parts but doesnt explain how to cope with things just explain how people are
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M. Zelli
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on October 27, 2014
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One of the best books I have read on relationships
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