This is the most amazing book. I swear to God I thought there was something so very, very wrong with me until I read this book. NO ONE talks about female commitmentphobia--I think maybe they just label it an anxiety disorder or something. I think many women don't recognize they ARE commitmentphobes and that might be one of the reasons it's so often labeled a male phenomenon. However, if your relationships are CONSTANTLY not working out, you see a pattern in your relationships or lack thereof, or relationships give you insane anxiety, you might want to give this book a shot.
This book gave me hope and made me feel not only normal, but not alone. The book is sprinkled with real life women "confessing" about their relationships and commitmentphobia and it was such a relief just to see some of these women's thoughts in print. So many parts of it were like reading my own thoughts and the most helpful part was actually when the author told people what NOT to say to a commitmentphobe--people have been saying this stuff to me forever and it always sets me off on another anxiety ridden tangent. Nice to know these common sayings/pieces of advice are not always to be taken as gospel truth. Now I know where my commitmentphobia most likely comes from, what behaviors I have that don't get me what I want and what I can do about them.
I am not exaggerating when I tell you what a miracle reading this book was for me. It is somewhat disappointing to hear that commitment phobia will most likely never be something I'll be entirely rid of, i.e., it might rear its ugly head at any time, but at least this will make it easier not to fight it so much when it does. This book has helped me realize how often I self-sabotage because of my fear of commitment and now that I feel like I'm not a completely crazy, I can get to work on some of her suggestions.
I'd give this book to half my female friends, but I think some of them are in denial!
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The book actually made me feel worse about the difficulties I have
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on November 18, 2014