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Do They Hear You When You Cry Paperback – January 12, 1999
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This is her story--told in her own words--of fleeing Africa just hours before the ritual kakia was to take place, of seeking asylum in America only to be locked up in U.S. prisons, and of meeting Layli Miller Bashir, a law student who became Fauziya's friend and advocate during her horrifying sixteen months behind bars. Layli enlisted help from Karen Musalo, an expert in refugee law and acting director of the American University International Human Rights Clinic. In addition to devoting her own considerable efforts to the case, Musalo assembled a team to fight with her on Fauziya's behalf. Ultimately, in a landmark decision in immigration history, Fauziya Kassindja was granted asylum on June 13, 1996. Do They Hear You When You Cry is her unforgettable chronicle of triumph.
- Print length529 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherDelta
- Publication dateJanuary 12, 1999
- Dimensions5.2 x 1.2 x 8 inches
- ISBN-100385319940
- ISBN-13978-0385319942
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--The New York Times Book Review
"Told in Kassindja's voice, this memoir is also a precious lesson about cultures, women's human rights policy, and perhaps most important, faith in God and humanity. These elements, fluidly interwoven, create an incredible narrative."
--The Washington Post
"Moving and powerful."
--Newsweek
"An astonishing true story . . . A sprawling adventure . . . Full of good guys and bad guys, lush landscapes, barren prison cells, love, courage, despair, and cruelty."
--The Philadelphia Inquirer
"A straightforward, gripping narrative, not easily forgotten."
--Essence
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This is her story--told in her own words--of fleeing Africa just hours before the ritual kakia was to take place, of seeking asylum in America only to be locked up in U.S. prisons, and of meeting Layli Miller Bashir, a law student who became Fauziya's friend and advocate during her horrifying sixteen months behind bars. Layli enlisted help from Karen Musalo, an expert in refugee law and acting director of the American University International Human Rights Clinic. In addition to devoting her own considerable efforts to the case, Musalo assembled a team to fight with her on Fauziya's behalf. Ultimately, in a landmark decision in immigration history, Fauziya Kassindja was granted asylum on June 13, 1996. Do They Hear You When You Cry is her unforgettable chronicle of triumph.
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This is her story--told in her own words--of fleeing Africa just hours before the ritual "kakia was to take place, of seeking asylum in America only to be locked up in U.S. prisons, and of meeting Layli Miller Bashir, a law student who became Fauziya's friend and advocate during her horrifying sixteen months behind bars. Layli enlisted help from Karen Musalo, an expert in refugee law and acting director of the American University International Human Rights Clinic. In addition to devoting her own considerable efforts to the case, Musalo assembled a team to fight with her on Fauziya's behalf. Ultimately, in a landmark decision in immigration history, Fauziya Kassindja was granted asylum on June 13, 1996. Do They Hear You When You Cry is her unforgettable chronicle of triumph.
About the Author
Layli Miller Bashir, a graduate of American University Washington College of Law, is now an attorney practicing in Washington, D.C. She is also the founder of the Tahirih Justice Center, which assists women facing international human rights abuses. She lives in Virginia with her husband.
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I returned to my cell after lunch. It was time for the Salat adh-Dhuhr.
I removed my shoes and washed my face, arms, feet and hands at the small sink. Then I carefully spread the bedsheet I used as a prayer rug on the cold concrete floor. I wrapped my head and neck in the veil we call a mayahfi, stepped on the sheet that faced East and began to pray. While I was kneeling on the sheet, clutching the ninety-nine beads of the tasbih...
"Kasinga!" My neck jerked upward when I heard the sound of my name come crackling out through the prison intercom system.
"Kasinga! Attorney visit!"
So they were here. But I wanted to finish my prayers.
Allau Akbar, Allau Akbar, Allau Akbar--
"Kasinga! Kasinga!"
I stood up, unwrapped my mayahfi, slowly laced my sneakers, and stepped onto the ramp outside my cell. Upper tier in B pod, maximum security, York County Correctional Facility in Pennsylvania--this was where I lived.
Down below me I could see the dayroom, a small, barren space with metal tables and stools bolted to the floor. Inmates in blue uniforms passed their time aimlessly, watching TV, playing cards, talking, and staring into space. I slowly made my way along the ramp to the stairway and down the stairs. The guard in the booth tried to hurry me along by shouting my name repeatedly over the loudspeaker, but I wouldn't be rushed. I was still reciting my prayers. I had learned that prayer was what kept me going, enabling me to see beyond the grim gray walls of this place I was forced to call home.
By the time I reached the door to the hall, it had been opened from the control booth. A guard stood waiting in the doorway. She waved me through. "Let's go, let's go!" We turned right and walked a few paces to a doorway. "In here," she said, motioning me into a small meeting room with four metal chairs and a metal table against the far wall. "Wait here," she said, closing the door behind her. I walked to the chair nearest the table, sat down, and waited for my visitors.
It was Saturday afternoon, February 10, 1996, my fourteenth month in prison, six weeks after my nineteenth birthday.
Back home in Togo, when my father was still alive and our family was still together in my father's house, my mother would fast on my birthday. She fasted on all her children's birthdays to thank Allah for keeping us well. Where was my mother now? Had she remembered to fast on my birthday this year? I hadn't seen her in almost three years, since my father's sister, Hajia Mamoud, evicted her from our house, four months and ten days after my father's death.
It was because of Hajia Mamoud and my father's brother, Malam Mouhamadou, that I was now thousands of miles away from everything and everyone I loved. When my father died, Malam Mouhamadou became my legal guardian. He and Hajia Mamoud sold me into marriage to a man almost thirty years my senior who already had three wives. This man wanted my woman parts cut off before taking me as his wife. It is a traditional practice in my tribe, which we call kakia. Most people call it female circumcision. But that doesn't really describe what kakia is. Since I've been in this country, I've heard people refer to kakia as female genital mutilation. Mutilation. Yes, that's the right name.
Traditional though my father was, he had opposed this practice, so my older sisters were spared. But I was the youngest of the five girls, and after my father's death there was no one to protect me. When my aunt told me she had arranged my marriage and that I was to be cut, I was terrified because I had known girls who had died from having it done. My mother's own sister had died from it, and I'd heard my parents speak of this event with horror. But my "husband," like most men in our tribe, wanted me to be cut so that I would be "clean" for him. So my aunt had arranged for the women who do it to come to our house.
I've heard that during the procedure, four women spread your legs wide apart and hold you down so that you can't move. And then, the eldest woman takes a knife that is used to cut hair and scrapes your woman parts off. There are no painkillers, no anesthesia. The knife isn't sterilized. Afterward, the women wrap your legs from your hips to your knees and you have to stay in bed for forty days so the wound can close. After the forty days, you are "reborn" for your husband, and delivered to his house to begin your new life as his wife.
This would have happened to me had I stayed in Togo. It happens every day to girls all over the world. But with the help of my oldest sister and money from my mother, I ran away, far from my home, my family, and my country. Eventually I made it to America where I thought I'd be taken in, where I thought I would be safe. But instead of finding safety, I'd found a jail cell--or actually a series of cells. I was now in my fourth prison. I had been beaten, teargassed, kept in isolation until I nearly lost my mind, trussed up in chains like a dangerous animal, strip-searched repeatedly, and forced to live with criminals, even murderers.
Why? I had committed no crime and was a danger to no one. I was only a nineteen-year-old girl from Togo who desperately needed help. I was a refugee seeking asylum, not a convicted criminal. I kept asking myself, why is this happening to me? My teachers in Africa said that America was a great country. It was the land of freedom, where people were supposed to find justice. But I was delivered to a dark corner of America where there was no justice. There was only cruelty, danger, and indifference.
And now I was ill. Even as I sat waiting for my visitors that day, my chest was burning. Each time I took a breath, it felt like someone was stabbing me with a knife. I was weak because I hadn't eaten much of anything for days. Swallowing food hurt too much. I didn't know what was wrong with me. I had asked to see a doctor several times but was never called to see one. I was afraid. Was I dying? Would I die alone in this place?
The meeting I was about to have was with members of my legal team, three people who were fighting for my release from prison: Layli Miller Bashir, Karen Musalo, and David Shaffer. Karen and David were relatively new to my case, Karen having gotten involved only last September, and David at the end of December. I had never met either of them before. But Layli--Layli I felt I knew well. She was the young law student who had represented me at my asylum hearing back in August. After we lost that first hearing, she promised she would never leave me. She said she would keep fighting for me until I was free. She was like an angel, someone who had come to rescue me from the living hell I had endured since coming to the United States. Although she is a white American, and I am a black African, we had become sisters.
So I should have been happy to see Layli again, for I hadn't seen her in more than four months. As much as I loved her, however, I was hoping never to have to see her again. I wanted to leave her a note, thanking her and my entire legal team and telling them why I had decided not to wait for them to get me out. Now I would have to explain my decision face-to-face.
But how could I explain it? How could I explain to Layli, or to anyone who has never experienced them, the daily indignities and humiliations of prison life? How could I explain what it is like to live with only the barest essentials: a prison uniform, a cell, a bunk, a bedsheet, two towels, a washcloth, toilet paper, and tiny bars of harsh soap? How could I explain what it is like to have no privacy to shower or to use the toilet? How could I explain what it feels like to be counted like cattle every day, to eat when you were told to eat, sleep when you were told to sleep? How could I explain the mind-numbing, soul-deadening feeling of doing nothing but watching TV, day after day, week after week, month after month?
No, I could never fully explain what it is like to live in prison, which was why I'd stopped trying to communicate with anyone on the outside. I'd lost interest in writing letters and making phone calls. There was no more reason to talk to people, really. What could they say that I hadn't already heard? It was always the same old story: "Hang in there, keep your spirits up, we're working hard, everything will be fine, just hold on a little while longer." And then they'd always say, "Oh, Fauziya, you are so strong, so brave." But I wasn't, and I didn't want to hear it anymore. They meant well, I knew. But they couldn't possibly understand how I felt. I'd held on for as long as I could. Now I had to get out before I went crazy or died. My legal team had been working incredibly hard on my case and I would always be grateful to them. But in spite of all their work, I was still in prison. Nothing had changed.
Except me. I was changing. I looked down at myself, sitting slouched in the chair with the shirt of my blue uniform half unbuttoned and hanging out of my pants. Back home, I would have never dressed so sloppily, but after fourteen months in American prisons, I didn't feel like myself anymore. I didn't recognize the person I was becoming.
I prayed to Allah five times a day, every day, but for reasons I could not understand, He would not hear my cries. He had chosen not to deliver me from my ordeal. Now I was convinced that as long as I remained in America I would never be free. I was sick and getting sicker all the time. I thought I might be dying. If that was Allah's will, so be it. But I didn't want my fellow prisoners' faces to be the last ones I saw. I wanted to see my family again. I wanted to die surrounded by the people I loved.
Twice in my life already I had taken my fate into my own hands. Ten days earlier, I'd done it again. I'd sent a note to the prison counselor, telling her I wanted to speak with her. When I didn't hear from the counselor, I wrote another note, telling her why I wanted to speak with her: tell the INS to send me back to Togo. My legal team would be upset when they heard about what I'd done, but I had to listen to my own heart.
I knew they'd try to talk me out of it. "You'll be out soon," they'd tell me again. They would try to convince me to stay for other people's sake. "Fauziya, your case is going to help so many other women." They might also say, "You know what will happen if you go back to Togo, don't you?"
Yes, I do know what will happen to me. But I cannot stay in prison any longer. I must go home. Now.
Product details
- Publisher : Delta (January 12, 1999)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 529 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0385319940
- ISBN-13 : 978-0385319942
- Item Weight : 15.8 ounces
- Dimensions : 5.2 x 1.2 x 8 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #493,574 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #680 in Native American Demographic Studies
- #5,670 in Women's Biographies
- #15,200 in Memoirs (Books)
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In the book, Kassindja describes her experiences in detention centers, facing deportation, and navigating the complexities of the US legal system as a refugee seeking protection. The title of the book reflects the frustration and despair she felt at times when she believed her voice was not being heard or understood by those in power.
Overall, "Do They Hear You When You Cry?" sheds light on the struggles faced by many asylum seekers and refugees, particularly women fleeing gender-based persecution. It highlights the importance of listening to and validating the experiences of those seeking safety and protection, as well as the need for compassion and empathy in the immigration process.
An absolutely terrific book with a wonderful after-story.
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The first few chapters are a bit drawn out, but provide much needed background information about her family life and particularly her relationship with her father. This is necessary to help the reader get her story into perspective. Her father was a somewhat progressive man by Togolese standards, who rebelled against many of his tribes (Togo in common with many African countries is steeped in tribal traditions) traditions, most notably female circumcison. Fauziya's sisters all managed to avoid this practise by marrying men from differing tribes with different customs, but when her father died unexpectedly shortly after Fauziya's 17th birthday, she became the legal guardian of her aunt and uncle, who were not so progressive. Her mother, whom the aunt and uncle had never approved of, was turned out of the house, and so was unable to protect her either. They allowed her to stay at school for a while, but then the bombshell hit, she was to marry a man almost three times her age, who already had three wives, and at the same time be "cut" (cirumcised).
I was already familiar with the different ways in this procedure can be carried out, having read at least one book about an African midwife, but the descriptions of how it is done are neverthless pretty graphic and not for the faint hearted. Fauziya was to be mutilated in the worst possible way, with all her external genitals cut without anaethetic or proper medical instruments leaving no more than a small hole for urine and menstrual blood. Women who have this procedure done frequently die, as indeed did her maternal aunt (not that she knew this at the time) from medical complications such as blood loss, shock and tetanus. It has been outlawed in most Western countries, including Britain, but of course is still carried out under the radar. The book estimates that something like 2 million girls are subject to this mutilation every single year, or 5 girls a second. This shocking statistic certainly made me think.
Literally hours before the procedure was to take place, with the help of her extremely brave older sister, Fauziya fled across the border to Ghana and then Germany, where she stayed for two months in the company of a German woman named Rudiya. It was then that she met Charlie, another African on a train. It was Charlie who suggested that she go to the US, where she had real family, both a cousin and an Uncle, as she spoke the language and the US was known for its justice system. Little did she know what she was heading into, for when she arrived instead of the warm welcome and sympathetic treatment that she was expecting, she was stripped, shackled and taken to a series of detention centres where she was to remain for the next 18 months.
Her treatment during this time was truly appalling, being subject to threats from predatory women (don't forget this was a young Muslim girl from a traditional African culture), repeatedly strip searched, and worst of all, imprisoned in a smoking area which the officers knew aggravated her asthnma. Even when she started coughing up blood, they refused to let her see a Doctor. It later transpired that she had a peptic ulcer which could have burst at any time, with all manner of complications. Her mental health, not surprising hit rock bottom, and her weight plummetted, being unable to keep anything down due to the ulcer and also partly because she did not know whether the meat she was given was safe for a Muslim to eat.
As in all good stories, Fauziya did eventually get her freedom, largely thanks to extensive media coverage of her case, and her expert legal team, and with support from her cousin, who risked his own freedom in order that she could have hers.
I could say so much more about this remarkable book, but have already said far too much that would only ruin it more for those who do wish to read. Suffice to say that everyone should read this story, a story that needs to be told and that the world needs to hear. I would strongly recommend this book to everyone. I would give this six stars if I was able to.
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