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I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict Paperback – Bargain Price, March 1, 2000

by Roni Cohen-Sandler (Author), Michelle Silver (Author)
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For mothers who are reeling from the rockiness of an ever-changing adolescent, or struggling with a relationship that's deteriorating by the day, here is encouragement, reassurance, and great advice. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" discusses the social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues that can lead to mother-daughter conflicts. It offers illuminating and very recognizable case studies, and demonstrates how mother-daughter friction during adolescence can actually empower girls by teaching them invaluable skills. By providing mothers with much-needed encouragement and practical strategies to help their daughters grow into emotionally healthy and capable adults, "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" can transform the tempestuous teenage years into years of positive, enriching growth.
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    280 pages
  2. Language
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  3. Publisher
    Penguin Books
  4. Publication date
    March 1, 2000
  5. Reading age
    18 years and up
  6. Dimensions
    7.99 x 5.31 x 0.61 inches
  7. ISBN-10
    0140286004
  8. ISBN-13
    978-0140286007
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"I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" takes on the formidable challenge of dealing with a daughter's explosive teenage years . . . [with] practical tools for staying connected". -- The Los Angeles Times

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Almost without exception, the teen years are a tumultuous time for girls and their mothers. But don't despair, say the authors of this lively, compassionate, and reassuring book. Strong feelings and conflict, if approached correctly, can actually lead to a deeper mutual understanding and a more satisfying relationship.

Combining the expertise of a clinical psychologist with the unique perspective of a magazine editor for teens. "I'm Not Mad, I just Hate You!" explores the social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues that lead to the chaotic door-slamming and eye-rolling of the teenage years. It offers fresh, doable, and specific advice, including:
-- Sample dos and dont's dialogues
-- Communications strategies, like "the 20-second rule" (don't say it if it takes longer than a paragraph)
-- True-to-life case studies that show mothers how to choose their battles wisely

Whether you're still anticipating the teen years, or struggling with a mother-daughter relationship that's deteriorating by the day, this book is the help you need!

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  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Penguin Books; 1st edition (March 1, 2000)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Paperback ‏ : ‎ 280 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0140286004
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0140286007
  • Reading age ‏ : ‎ 18 years and up
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 10.9 ounces
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 7.99 x 5.31 x 0.61 inches
  • Customer Reviews:
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    Michelle is the author of three self-help books for women: I Love Mondays: And other confessions from devoted working moms (November 1st, 2012, Seal Press); I'm Not Mad, I just Hate You! (Viking, 1999), and Seeking Happily Ever After: How to navigate the ups and downs of being single without losing your mind (Tarcher/Penguin, 2010). She is also a filmmaker, who directed/produced the award-winning documentary Seeking Happily Ever After (Lionsgate), and is in production on One and Only. Michelle is the editor of 614: the HBI ezine for Jewish women, and offers talks and workshops to empower girls and women. Visit www.michellecove.com to learn more.

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Nathaniel T. Bartels
5.0 out of 5 stars I've gone through several copies
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I got this book for friends of mine who have daughters, and they have praised the book greatly. I would recommend it to anyone interested. Granted - I don't have daughters nor children yet myself nor am I a mother - so all I can pass on is second-hand information - but it's been well received by those I have gifted it to.
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Kristina56
4.0 out of 5 stars An answer to prayer!
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My daughter just turned 13, and this was recommended by a nurse friend with older girls. The title totally describes our relationship at this moment!

The book goes a long way in explaining all the changes happening within this transition from girl-hood to woman-hood. It is most definitely going to stay right by my bedside. The best advice I got was to remove myself from situations that can easily ignite into down-right wars. I'm thankful that I found it, and would recommend it to any Mom with a daughter grade 5 and up.
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Gina Flores
5.0 out of 5 stars MY DAUGHTER & I,
Reviewed in the United States on November 11, 2015
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GREAT BOOK, I LEARNED SO MUCH & RECOMMEND THIS TO EVERY MOTHER WHO WANTS A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH HER DAUGHTER.
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kasshopper
5.0 out of 5 stars Good book.
Reviewed in the United States on August 24, 2014
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Very helpful for any mom raising a teen. Good book.
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Robyn Lee Markow
3.0 out of 5 stars Wrong Book For Me.
Reviewed in the United States on September 8, 2015
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I thought this book was a about adult mothers & daughters;not teen daughters and mothers so it was not I wanted. Looks like a helpful book for the right person though; I think I'll give to my best friend who has two teenage daughters;-)
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Marming
5.0 out of 5 stars So helpful
Reviewed in Canada on September 22, 2018
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I read this when my 30 year old daughter was a teenager. It was so helpful that I bought it for my other daughter who has a preteen now. I still remember all of these years later what an impact this book had on me. The title helps.
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Melissa Garcia
5.0 out of 5 stars Good
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Good book, worth reading it.
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